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Big shootout at OK Corral this morning.:( Yes, it's that same topic....:(
I have met with attorneys. Five, counting 3 that could not help (due to various reasons: not their area of expertise, too busy, conflict of interest).
Atty I saw Monday suggests I give Bro a run down of what is owed and to give him a deadline.
I did...and he pitched a fit. A bad one.
I don't know what his story is: is he in denial or what or he thinks I'm bluffing: he's refused to pay up by the deadline -- says he can't do it by then and to "Give him time". I already gave him time, and lots of it, and I got nowhere.
I also told him there are 3 options for him, since he and I can no longer own this home together: Buyout, sell or partition action. he would not listen and threatened to block me from taking a loan out on this house to buy him out.
A mediator will be needed here.
He also wanted to bring GF in on this: "Let's the 3 of us sit down and discuss this"? She is not party to this; she does not own this home or any part of it; it is just wrong to expect her to be in on this.
I have a big mess here. I am returning to see the atty tomorrow morning; I told him what happened today.
Atty I saw Monday suggests I give Bro a run down of what is owed and to give him a deadline.
I did...and he pitched a fit. A bad one.
I don't know what his story is: is he in denial or what or he thinks I'm bluffing: he's refused to pay up by the deadline -- says he can't do it by then and to "Give him time". I already gave him time, and lots of it, and I got nowhere.
I also told him there are 3 options for him, since he and I can no longer own this home together: Buyout, sell or partition action. he would not listen and threatened to block me from taking a loan out on this house to buy him out.
A mediator will be needed here.
He also wanted to bring GF in on this: "Let's the 3 of us sit down and discuss this"? She is not party to this; she does not own this home or any part of it; it is just wrong to expect her to be in on this.
I have a big mess here. I am returning to see the atty tomorrow morning; I told him what happened today.
Re: Big shootout at OK Corral this morning.:( Yes, it's that same topic....:(
He is up the creek minus a paddle. At this point, the Queen Mary II wouldn't be able to rescue him.
Well, too bad for him. I tried being nice, being nasty, being rotten, tried being reasonable, tried to talk to him -- nothing worked.
I also cannot pull 2 more people for free.
I am trying to save my skin at this point and I will do what I need to do.
I have another meeting with that attorney tomorrow, I am going through with suing him and buying him out. I can't let myself be bullied nor should I fear for my own future..
I am sure it is slight of hand or they forgot....but I am saying nothing. Besides, it isn't their call to forget: I am supposed to get a key. This is more legal trouble for them: there is a thing called the ouster rule -- I was potentially barred from my own living quarters.
And he had a fit when I told him that his live in is not to touch the common area. I can have atty send her a letter, telling her that.
This was never a temporary arrangement, that living arrangement. The premise was that she was to stay here until next June: allegedly until she could find rooms. It takes until JUNE -- 8 months from now -- to find an apartment. Right.
If you are moving your furniture in and replacing this and calling a utility guy to set up this that and the other thing (all in her name, I imagine) then this is not temporary at all. "She will take her furniture with her..." Tell me another one.
What gets me too is they lied to me about the living arrangement being temporary. She thinks this is cool to lie and they both are doing it? Don't ask me what I think of that.
"Let's include her as a silent partner. let's all 3 of us sit down and discuss this," he said. What is to discuss? This is not her concern. She is a houseguest and nothing more. She does NOT own any part of this home. He's hella furious at that, too.
A mediator is going to be needed. I am going to suggest that when I meet with atty tomrrow.
Good luck with the lawyer tomorrow, and with the buy out. He can get mad all he wants, but he has to pay his way or get the hell out!
And even if he produces the money tomorrow, he will still do it again. This is why he can no longer own a home with me. The entire mess will start over.
I asked him if he had any intention of paying up for November 1; that is when property tax is next due. He said nothing. So this means I am now pulling all 3 of them on my dime. Nope.
And that she is staying here with the knowledge that he won't pay up and will not? Don't ask me what I think of somebody like that. What happened to class and morals and running like hell when you find out somebody has no character and is dishonest? She's just as bad as he is if she promotes and endorses what he is doing.
I am putting myself first. Nobody is going to intimidate me, bully me or live off me.
Thanks for asking. More info as it comes in.