October 2012 Weddings
ilebron07
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Realtionship with MIL
I try to do things with my MIL but she always has an excuse.
How's your relationship with your MIL?
Re: Realtionship with MIL
I'm sure H would love it if we got along but he knows that will ever happen and doesn't push the issue. We live a state away so that helps.
MIL and I have a great relationship. Her and I do dinner together just the two of us once in a while. Whenever she calls me I'm on the phone with her for at least 20 minutes. DH always jokes when she calls, "See you in an hour." I say the same to him when she calls him though too. She's just a really nice person.
She just finds things to b!tch about, it just makes visiting very trying... Most recently, she doesn't understand why we can't be down on Christmas every year. We will be down a day or two after Christmas every other year. She doesn't understand I want to have Christmas day with mine... Its all about her.
I'm waiting for the time I can't bite my tongue.
Oh, my MIL is a real treat. My H is the youngest of 7 children and she still thinks he is the baby, even though he is 38 years old. She is very passive agressive to me. In the almost 4 years that H and I have been together, she and I have never once had a phone conversation. She randomly sent me a message on FB yesterday talking about how excited she is about the baby. I have yet to respond and probably won't. I try to limit my interaction to her as much as humanly possible.
I tell H that this makes me feel like a giant bitch, but he understands and claims he feels the same way.
Oh, and she talks crap about my BIL's wives and ex-wives. I wonder what she says about me to them, ugh.
DH and I have had several fights because of MIL and FIL. They are very generous people, and when we first got our house they wanted to help us out a lot. They kept having conversations and fixing things without telling me. It started to drive me INSANE. I felt like I didn't have a say in anything that was happening to our house. I felt like I wan't even part if anything, FIL would come over and just move stuff like the trash cans of shovels. Things have tamed down and they still offer to help a lot. I know that they have the best intentions but I get really uncomfortable with gifts, and they tend to over step boundries. I'm getting better at accepting their generosity as well. I know it's a weird thing to get upset about, but it really bothered me to not be involved in my own house!
I'm fearful for when we have kids. I think it's going to be another power struggle like the house was. I just have to keep reminding myself that they just have bg hearts and mean the best.
I love MIL a lot and I enjoy spending time with her. I value her opinion and sometimes take hers over my own mother. I know she loves me very much also. When I had the miscarriage she was very concerned, even offered to take me to my D&C.
I consider myself lucky and I know most people don't feel the way I do about their MILs. Most of my friends can't believe I feel that way because their MILs are crazy, literally.