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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Venturing out of my comfort zone...
I suggest you put together a "brag sheet" --- starting with kindergarten, write down every single positive thing you have done: include it all --- stars you got on art you made, if you sold the most cookies in your troop, if you made the honor roll etc --- include all of your accomplishments all the way up until now: graduations, honor roll, special awards you won -- put down everything, no matter how minor.:).
You should have a compilation of many many pages of great things you have done.
No matter how minor they are, write them down. A guy I know who is a job counselor suggests this for his clients.
You're BOUND to feel good about yourself when you get done reading about all of your accomplishments.
Work on yoruself:):
Get a makeover -- try going to a beauty school; you can get a new haircut, new color, new makeup for cheap.
If you need to get into shape, do it -- it's as simple as cutting back on what you eat and going for at least an hour walk each day.
If you are currently large, have a look at the gorgeous women who are famous who have larger figures -- one of my favorites is Christina Hendricks.
Have a look at what she wears on set on Mad Men -- the Mad Men website is chock full of pictures of Ms. Hendricks in fantastic clothes that play up her larger hourglass figure -- have a look at the colors and silhouettes and necklines. They never go out of style.
Perhaps you can try some of these looks yourself.
If you are rather lanky, look at somebody like Gwen Stefani. Same thing -- have a look at what she wears. Maybe you can try out some of her looks. I think she's one of the most gorgeous women ever.
If you're shy about spicing things up, try things like setting up a nice hot bath for 2. Include music and some candlelight; invite him in with you. Let nature take its course.
Or jump into the shower with him and/or invite him in with you. Again, let nature take its course.
There are also sex manuals for couples. Lots of mainstream bookstores sell them --- you can also go on line to something like amazon or B&N and see what they have to offer. The 2 of you should look them over together and see which ones you both like the best.
What else I suggest:
MASTURBATE.
I am willing to bet you haven't.
There is a book called "Sex For One" -- the author is Betty Dobson -- they call her the "mother of masturbation."
Masturbate on your own --- see what makes you feel good and what makes you orgasm --- and when you find out what makes you feel great and what touches do it for you, show him. SHow him where to put his hand, his fingers, his tongue...
And if you are not getting oral sex, make sure you get it.
"Go down on me" are the 4 key words you need to use; make it "standard equipment" on your model.;) He will be more than glad to oblige.
Wow, is that your photo in your profile???
You're very very attractive! Something like an "earth mother" bohemian look would be fantastic on you!
Your glasses are great, your hair looks healthy and vibrant and it's a great color for you!
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What are you really good at?
Everybody has a special talent or "niche" or skill --- I have never seen it fail.
What hobbies have you got? What do you excel at?
I suggest you find a way to daily start incorporating that skill or talent or "niche" into your life.
If you do something well and there is a special interest group in your area that spotlights that skill, JOIN IT!!! Join that group and show those people what you can do. It's a sure fire way to be liked, because not only are you on a common ground but because you do what you do well.
It will be a real ego booster and morale booster too, for you....and hence a self esteem booster.
You can DIY or go to a pro to take the photos.
You do not have to pose naked. You can pose in whatever you feel comfortable in.