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My Husbands brother in law
My Husband brother in law was disliked my my MIL and FIL. He is a former drug addict, couldn't hold a job till he reached his late 30's, his mother is a drug addict, and he constantly talks like the comical stereotype of a Hippie. I grew to dislike him because of personal space and more. Our first meeting he told me I had a dark soul and about his numerous suicide attempts...which was just uncomfortable for a first meeting. His lack of personal space continued. He constantly licks his finger and sticks it in my ear which leads to horrible ear infections due to my horrible eczema. He keeps touching my belly telling me my H and I need to "create life". He has a creepy close relationship with his mom, he spoons with her. He also will say very politically incorrect offensive things, I've called him out once on this. I seem to be the only one now that dislikes him because he and my SIL just had a child. I can't handle this man but my H family is upset I avoid him but even if I try to kindly say "he just makes me uncomfortable" they say I'm overreacting. Should I be blunt and tell them the actual reasons why or stick to what I've been doing...only seeing him on holidays?
Re: My Husbands brother in law
Your H and you need to be a united front on this. Where is he in this issue? You both need to create boundaries with creepy BIL and stick to them.
Does he man up and tell this creep to eff off? Looks like he hasn't done a thing to keep him away from you, or to tell this creep to get lost.
Nor has he cut this guy out of your lives.
Cut this guy out of your life. He sounds like a jerk.
If he makes you uncomfortable, you and your H need to stick together as a team and eliminate this guy from your life. And to hell with what his family says.
Comical stereotype of a hippie, no (and not all hippies were dopers). Addictive personality due to his mother, yes.
Why the hell are you close enough to him for him to TOUCH you, let alone let him put his finger in your ear and touch your belly?
Get rid of contact with him --- and if your H does not agree with you vehemently, rethink your H. He is, then, as big a creep as this horrible man is.
Baby Boy loved for 15 weeks, 5/31/11
Baby Girl loved for 16.5 weeks. 3/1/12
Not only do you need to be more vocal, but ultimately YOUR H needs to be vocal and put a stop to this nonsense. He should not be sitting back and allowing this to happen because it is not right.
I wouldn't talk to them about this, just try to only see this man on holidays. Also have preplanned responses to his behavior. Try to never be in the same room with him or at least never alone.