January 2012 Weddings
jjbmstinco
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Please help me grow a thick skin
In MN people don't like you but they are fake nice to you to avoid drama. They talk about you behind your back. It is safe to say that it is very Minnesotan to be passive aggressive. It is called MN nice for a reason. I have no moved to CO where everyone has the F U attitude. Seriously I have only met a few people that aren't like that...Aleigha being one, and 2 people at work. So now that I live here, I need to adopt this way of thinking. But I can't! I am a counselor, caring about everyone's feelings, worried about everyone else by myself person.
People hate me at work. It is a known fact. I know that I have complained about it before...but if I could take away all the drama and politics, I love my job. I love my kids, but when teachers fight me on every step, I can't take it. When I talk to my P...all she says is to stop taking my job so personally.
I have never had so many problems before in MN. IDK how to adopt this new mind set. Its stressing J and I out. I come home crying about once a week. The few friends that I do have tell me to grow thick skin. They are older than I am. They say it will come with experience. But IDK if I can make it much longer. I told my P on day 2 that I wasn't returning next year. It is now 10-18-13 and I still don't want to return next year. How am I going to make it till May?! Andplusalso I don't want to leave my job. I want to stay for my kids. I feel like they have so many people in and out of their life. I want to be stable. I know I am making a difference in their life. They tell me! But when teachers want to block everything I do, I can't continue to be in a hostile environment.
This week's cry session was because I took a kid of of the after school program because he asked to be twice. Plus he has been super distracting to other students. I called mom, told her what was going on. Said maybe a break would help him and he is welcome back anytime. She then asked him how he felt and he said that he doesn't want out. She is confronted me because she thinks I am lying. When I saw him today, he said "I was just playing". He has an emotional disability that the parents are choosing to ignore. So she is mad that she wasn't involved in the decision. BUT she wasn't involved in the decision to put him in there anyways because she doesn't accept late assignments. His mom put him in, so I called her to get him out. She just went to my P about it this morning, and I was told that there was a miscommunication so now I have to start going to their meetings. We'll see if they invite me.
Sorry this was a rant. but IDK what else to do.
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