October 2012 Weddings
mbuckley85
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Invited to a wedding...
DH is in a wedding in May (5/2). Our baby is due 2/17, so even if he is born on his due date he will only be 2.5 months old. I had DH call the groom to ask of the baby would be included and he basically said the only kids are going to be his own (one year old) and some of the bride's family traveling from Colorado. I get this, I really do...but at the same time I have never heard of excluding a breastfed infant. It will be the first time we leave the baby, most likely, as I won't even be back to work at that point. Even after I go back, the only person watching the baby will be DH since we work opposite schedules and my sister while I sleep after work.
Obviously I'm anxious about this. We have to travel about two hours for the wedding so we will be staying in a hotel for two nights (since DH is in the wedding we will have the rehearsal dinner the night before as well). I'm going to bring my mother with is (which will cost us an extra room). I really cannot justify paying for an extra room for two nights so do you think it would be awful to ask if the baby can come to the rehearsal dinner? Obviously, if the answer is no, I'm going to have to suck up the cost of the second room for the night before the wedding or just skip the dinner.
Am I out of line? I am super hormonal and this is really bothering me a lot, as much as I am trying not to let it.
Obviously I'm anxious about this. We have to travel about two hours for the wedding so we will be staying in a hotel for two nights (since DH is in the wedding we will have the rehearsal dinner the night before as well). I'm going to bring my mother with is (which will cost us an extra room). I really cannot justify paying for an extra room for two nights so do you think it would be awful to ask if the baby can come to the rehearsal dinner? Obviously, if the answer is no, I'm going to have to suck up the cost of the second room for the night before the wedding or just skip the dinner.
Am I out of line? I am super hormonal and this is really bothering me a lot, as much as I am trying not to let it.
Re: Invited to a wedding...
Honestly if it were me, I wouldn't go at all of they said no bringing the baby. Let H go, but I'd stay with baby at home.
They attended the ceremony and reception and then went back to the hotel for the night. My friend's only complaint was the baby cried through the entire ceremony and on her video, you hear the baby over the vows. Just be considerate if you are in that situation.
I don't see why your H's friend wouldn't understand. Your baby would take up little space at 2 months old, he wouldn't be charged an extra plate and how could you expect a 2 month old to be separated from the parents that young. If the friend is set on the baby staying home, I think I'd stay home and tell my H to go alone.
I'm guessing I'm going to have to pump while I am at the wedding because we will be quite a distance from the hotel (it would take me over an hour round trip with feeding time to go back and feed the baby). It will take some extra thought on my part because I'll need to have a cooler for the pumped goods...
How inconsiderate! They should have taken the baby somewhere if it was being fussy.
I know we just went to a wedding last month, stepson was on a verge of a break down (he has autism, we know when it's coming), so H took him back to the car before the ceremony started. After break down, they came back.
I know they say not to, but I plan on starting bottles pretty early (of pumped milk). I need the baby to take a bottle well for DH since I work nights and he will be home for 12 hour shifts with the baby.