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Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
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Update on the friend (former MOH) situation
Ok, so I completely hijacked the FFFC post on Friday explaining about my friend, former MOH situation.
She, in fact, did not go to my engagement party. I checked facebook toward the end of the party and noticed she posted a status "Watching Hot Tub Time Machine... classic." I was flabbergasted. That's what she'd rather do than come celebrate with me. I was literally in shock.
After thinking about it a little while and talking about it with FH, I decided to release her from the bridal party. I texted her that since it was apparent that this is not a good time in her life and it was only causing both of us stress, that it would be best that she not take part in the wedding party. Her responses again shocked me. She told me she didn't have money to go to the party. Ummmm... it was a FREE party. She lives 15 minutes from the party location as well. Also, she doesn't know it, but our mutual friend called me Saturday morning out of concern because they had all gone to eat Friday night (I would have gone too, but I had to be with my cheerleaders at the football game Friday night). Apparently, this friend, the former MOH, spent Friday shopping, getting her nails done, etc. That night at dinner, she paid for her dinner and drinks as well as her boyfriend's dinner and drinks. She told me she is -$500 in her bank account... but she had money just the day before. Regardless, the party was FREE and it's not mandatory to bring a gift. From the moment I told her about the party two months ago, she has come up with different excuses not to go... and when she didn't have one, she just didn't go. I also told her that she made it obvious when she didn't even want to take part in conversations about wedding events when she chose to leave the conversation on FB immediately when the conversation started. Her excuse: she didn't have wifi and that I should have texted her. I told her: I did text you the next day since no one had heard your answer about whether or not you wanted to go to the bachelorette party, and you saw it, read it (she has the read receipt turned on her phone) and then never answered me. She said that did not happen. I took a screen shot of it and sent it to her.
To make a long story short, she told me I am being "pure evil," told me I am judging her for not having money, called me a bridezilla, and then rounded all that out by telling me that I am using her as a scapegoat to release my frustrations because I don't really want to get married. Wow....
She, in fact, did not go to my engagement party. I checked facebook toward the end of the party and noticed she posted a status "Watching Hot Tub Time Machine... classic." I was flabbergasted. That's what she'd rather do than come celebrate with me. I was literally in shock.
After thinking about it a little while and talking about it with FH, I decided to release her from the bridal party. I texted her that since it was apparent that this is not a good time in her life and it was only causing both of us stress, that it would be best that she not take part in the wedding party. Her responses again shocked me. She told me she didn't have money to go to the party. Ummmm... it was a FREE party. She lives 15 minutes from the party location as well. Also, she doesn't know it, but our mutual friend called me Saturday morning out of concern because they had all gone to eat Friday night (I would have gone too, but I had to be with my cheerleaders at the football game Friday night). Apparently, this friend, the former MOH, spent Friday shopping, getting her nails done, etc. That night at dinner, she paid for her dinner and drinks as well as her boyfriend's dinner and drinks. She told me she is -$500 in her bank account... but she had money just the day before. Regardless, the party was FREE and it's not mandatory to bring a gift. From the moment I told her about the party two months ago, she has come up with different excuses not to go... and when she didn't have one, she just didn't go. I also told her that she made it obvious when she didn't even want to take part in conversations about wedding events when she chose to leave the conversation on FB immediately when the conversation started. Her excuse: she didn't have wifi and that I should have texted her. I told her: I did text you the next day since no one had heard your answer about whether or not you wanted to go to the bachelorette party, and you saw it, read it (she has the read receipt turned on her phone) and then never answered me. She said that did not happen. I took a screen shot of it and sent it to her.
To make a long story short, she told me I am being "pure evil," told me I am judging her for not having money, called me a bridezilla, and then rounded all that out by telling me that I am using her as a scapegoat to release my frustrations because I don't really want to get married. Wow....
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
Re: Update on the friend (former MOH) situation
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
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BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
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Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP! Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64 Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
Somtimes the best thing to do is let a "friend" go.
She sounds cuckoo bananas. Just imagine the drama she'd cause on your actual wedding day! Good riddance, IMO.
In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!
T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.
In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!
T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.
"I DO NOT love that you think so many things revolve around you. I know you're bitter. I get it. But I'm over your feelings." The best person on the internet ever!
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...hello out there!
dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
off bcp 11/11
a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
I refuse to let her upset me any further, and at this point, I am just looking forward to the remainder of wedding planning and events with happy people that I don't have to worry about!
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
Sorry you are losing a friend but it doesn't sound like she's been a very good one lately to begin with.
TTC 19 months ~Started RE in March 2014~
DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
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~~BFP 7/6/14~~~EDD 3/14/15~~It's a girl!!~~
Have you expressed your fears about her bf and her change in attitudes/personality in a concerned, non-judgmental way? If she really is using, she needs a friend.
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
TTC#2 4/14
A Parachute in an Oak Tree: A World of Love
And yes, when she got back together with this guy, I told her that she can do whatever she wants with her life, but I will not hang out with him. He is a known drug dealer and addict and I will not be in his presence because I'm not going down with him if he gets busted with drugs. Her other friends have this same standard.
I have been there for her when she lost her job, I let her live with me rent-free, I cooked her meals, cleaned her bathroom; I was the only person she had help her move into an apartment when she got this new job. Her boyfriend didn't feel the need to come help even though he had the day off and was doing nothing but sitting at home.
I do judge her decision to be with this guy, and I admit that. I feel like she's too smart,pretty, etc to be with someone who treats her that way and uses her for her money and vehicle. But as far as judging her for not having money, no. I am in no way "rolling in the dough" myself and I know what it's like to work paycheck to paycheck.
I made her MOH bc she has been my best friend for five years. She and I were single together and were inseparable. When I met my fiance, she made the comment that it's not fair because he is more her type than mine.
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
And you're right, I don't have sympathy. I am aware of that about myself... I tend to lack sympathy for people when their lives are not the way they want them to be due to choices they made/are making. You can't complain about something that you aren't willing to change.
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
I'm guessing it's your delivery. Your judgement and lack of compassion are evident here, so I'm sure they're clear to her.
And I don't think having a lack of sympathy is something to be too proud of.
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014
I am so sorry about this. Friends and weddings, I really think some people really can get jealous. I had a friend, notice I said had. She and I were great friends. When I met my now H, she was so so happy for us. I remember her saying after we had been dating only like a month, that I was going to marry this guy, which obviously I did. lol But when I started becoming not available to her 24-7, she started claiming that was a shitty friend. Right! I always would try to get together with her, dinner, drinks, whatever, just watching a movie to hang out. She was the one who slowly drifted away.
Sad, really sad. She ended up not even answering any invites, shower, bachelorette party, wedding.... SHe too, claimed she was broke, so couldn't come to the bachelorette party, I am not a big $$ spender, so I wanted it as cheap as possible. I didn't want the girls spending a bunch of ? on it. She didn't come with, but I found out she went and spend a ton of money on some show, where she had already seen the guy like a million times. It really hurt my feelings. Iwas there for her always, and now this important time in my like, which I wanted her to share with me, she bailed....
SOme people, I think are meant to be in our lives only for certain times. I guess she has done her time...
Sounds like we had the same type of friend. Looking back on it, it has been a very self-serving friendship on her part. I know that I could elaborate more and more on her behavior, but I am not the only person in our lives that is having this issue with her. When things are going good for someone else in her life, she gets extremely jealous and drops that person.
When her brother and his girlfriend got pregnant, she yelled at him and told him he was "fucking irresponsible" and called him selfish for having a baby before her. When her brother then proposed to his girlfriend/baby's mother, she swore she wouldn't go to the wedding bc "her little brother isn't supposed to get married before her." yeah....
Katie, Jesse, and Breanna
We're getting married: March 1, 2014