Does size matter? Be honest!

Sembree1 · October 2013

Honestly, does size matter? FI is.....let's say small.Not small as in average and a little smaller then average, but small. And it does matter unfortunately. Sex is nothing like the 2 previous relationships I had been in where they were "average". What's everyone else thoughts, opinions, and situations?

kss20 · October 2013

Depends on the man or woman. Some people don't get any pleasure from vaginal stimulation, some get tons. Some people are.... shorter?... internally and a big penis can hurt. Personally for me, I'm more about clitoral stimulation and like my penis to have a wider girth (just because it's a turn on for me.) Too long, though, (think 8.5+ inches) and I'm in pain.

4Monsters · October 2013

I haven't been with anyone I'd consider 'small' so I'm not sure if my answer would be different if I had... but in my experience, bigger is not better. My ex husband was well endowed. There were a lot of positions that I couldn't enjoy because they were just uncomfortable or even painful. So what we could do was limited. Now with my fiance, he's perfect. Positions I couldn't previously enjoy are absolutely amazing with him!!

KeeneOnGreen · October 2013

I havent been with very many men (3). But I love my husbands penis. Its pretty average I think (maybe 6 or 7 inches- havent really measured)not too big and not too small. Its a nice girth though. I wouldnt want any bigger though because as it is it sometimes is uncomfortably large in certain positions &/or times of the month.
It sounds like you've already found it to be a bit small though. I guess it depends on what satisfies you sexually. Some women prefer clitoral climaxes. Some climax better through penetration. If youre the one who orgasms better through penetration, and he can't do that you might have a problem. You both would need to do some work in the bedroom to see if he can satisfy you. Some use toys. But you would need to think about if youd be comfortable using them every time. I guess its just about how attracted you are to him and how much you care about him. Because it might take somework in the bedroom to make things good.

doeydo · October 2013

That would suck. If he is fully erect and you two go to have vaginal intercourse, does he seem to enjoy it at all? What does it feel like for you? Or, does it not even stay in?
I will agree with PPs though that clitoral stimulation is usually what brings women pleasure, not penetration.

artbyallie · October 2013

Why are you marrying a man who (apparently) does not satisfy you sexually? Who cares if it matters to anyone else, you're the one engaged to the micropeen.

Sembree1 · October 2013

He enjoys sex, I do if I am on top. I think it is still something I'm not used to......it had never been an issue in a relationship before so even after the amount of time we have been together, I'm still not quite sure about it. It limits positions and such but I can still orgasm through penetration if I am on top. It's something I want to talk about with him to see what other things we could try but I don't want to offend him.......

Kimbus22 · October 2013

It only matters to me if we're talking about an actual micropenis or something so big my vag hurts just looking at it.

DawnLilly · October 2013

Size matters in the opposite respect to me. I am very petite and short and too large means he's "bottoming out" and that's painful. I walked away from a one night stand in college because he was so big that I laughed and said he wasn't coming near me with that thing. So I think it just depends on the person. DH is average but uncircumcised, which is Amazing. There are always positions that some enjoy and some don't. You will just have to find what works for you and your FI. I suggest the lazy dog position. That way he'll be in a position for you to feel more pressure.

moonprincessd · October 2013

I've only ever been with my husband and he's average, but his curves a little, but no complaints here! So I can't say size matters...

Also it seems like a shallow reason to leave someone.... there are ways around a small penis and it's just a matter of finding what works for the both of you

Janessadawn · October 2013

Eeeek, this is a toughie. I'm sure you're not the first or last woman to encounter this problem. For those asking why she's marrying him, there's more to a strong relationship than sexual satisfaction! I feel that if both people are willing and open to talking about it, this is something that can be worked through. You may want to research advice from people such as Dr Ruth Westheimer, Sue Johanson (I used to watch her show religiously), and Dan Savage.

DawnLilly · October 2013

Omg Sue Johanson taught me so much lol. I had almost forgotten about her. In college we would sit in the common room on Sunday nights with popcorn and liquor in pop bottles. I wonder if she's still alive? Lol, is that bad? But seriously she was old.

Janessadawn · October 2013

@DawnLilly according to Wikipedia, she still is, and she's 83! This is actually kind of an interesting read. I, too, loved her show. There's something about sex advice from a little old lady that makes it easier to digest. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sue_Johanson

CLI242009 · October 2013

moonprincessd said:

I've only ever been with my husband and he's average, but his curves a little, but no complaints here! So I can't say size matters...

Also it seems like a shallow reason to leave someone.... there are ways around a small penis and it's just a matter of finding what works for the both of you

I completely agree with both things you said. Only been with FI, but when I see just images of anything bigger than him it terrifies me!

Something THAT long or big can fit inside someone, really?! O_O No thanks haha

I would talk to your SO. Without communication how does he know he isn't satisfying you? If you love him, you need to talk to him about it.

arhayden1 · October 2013

Totally shallow reason to leave someone. Both have you though have got to be willing to communicate about this and experiment and have fun trying new things. My H is small average with a curve and I have found and angle with him on top that works but I still stuggle to finish. Coming in from behind works well for smaller size. Also foreplay and lots of it. Again have fun experiment and most importantly TALK about it

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