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Tall Husband, Low Ceiling Compromise - Need Advice!
Hi there - first post! I need some advice.
My husband and I have been house searching in the D.C. area for a few months now. We have a lot of criteria that we want out of our new home and have had to compromise when searching because our "perfect house" doesn't exist in our price range. D.C. is expensive!
We finally found a house that fits everything we need. The catch? My husband is very tall and the ceiling in the basement is only 7 feet high. He can fit into it with a handful inches to spare, but that was a deal breaker for him. We have looked at other houses where the basement has had low posts and he has to duck - and those have obviously not been good options. However, for just one floor of the house, he cannot jump high, do jumping jacks, or the YMCA. Should I attempt to get him to compromise?
We loved the area, the house, the price - it's just the height of the basement. They have other homes for sale in that neighborhood, so we don't have to rush to make an offer on *this* house.
What do you all think? Am I just being selfish? Or should I try to find a way to ask him to compromise? I don't want him to feel bad for his height, or to get upset that I'm pushing the subject.
Re: Tall Husband, Low Ceiling Compromise - Need Advice!
Is the basement going to be an area that he is going to use a lot? I can see if its just going to be storage, or maybe a place for the laundry, then I can see where you could try to compromise since he won't be using it regularly. But if the basement would be a condition that he will be using as a man cave, exercise area, etc. then I could see his point on not wanting to compromise.
We wanted a walk-in closet in our master, 4 bedrooms, and minimum 2000 sq ft, but we wound up with double closets in the master, 3 bedrooms, and 1700 sq ft because we loved everything about the house. What I'm trying to say is--you won't find your "perfect house" in any price range/market, because it simply doesn't exist unless you were to build it from scratch. Unless the low ceiling will be a huge daily inconvenience, and you both really love everything else, I say use your powers of persuasion. Maybe tell him how you won't have to ask him for help when the downstairs smoke detector battery is low because you'll be able to reach it yourself.
As a person of taller stature, I think you should move on to another house.
It's one of those things that when it doesn't affect you, it's not an issue, but when you're the person having to make sure you don't bang your head on the way down the stairs or into a light fixture or just feeling like you have to duck your head to walk across the room, it's not just a minor annoyance.
Mr. LK is quite tall and we encountered similar house hunting issues. Low ceilings make him uncomfortable, to the point of being quasi-claustrophobic. I would never want our home to make my husband feel that way, so we quickly ruled out those homes.
I know this market is tight. It took us 18 months to find our home in the DC metro area. Sometimes you just have to be patient and keep looking.