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AW: Just Need to Share

I seriously have some amazing friends. My sister has been so understanding of our TTC difficulty, and as I mentioned in the FFFC post, I finally reached out to my friend who just got pregnant earlier this summer to talk to her about things being hard. I'm overwhelmed by the support and understanding I'm finding from the people in my life. 

Here are the messages:
From Me:
I love you loads, and you know how excited I am for you and T having this baby. That being said, I'm in a very tough place emotionally with M and my difficulties getting pregnant. If you're going to share the gender after today's appt, yes, of course I'd like to know. But I may need a tad bit of sensitivity in the delivery. Rather than mass text like the belly pic you sent (which I later looked at and loved, but I was not in a good place to see it when it was sent). I know this sounds selfish on my part. I want to share in your joy right now, sometimes it's just hard. And I know, I haven't filled you in on the details, and part of that is finding the time to sit down and call you and the girls to have that crappy conversation, and part of it is being afraid. No matter what, I want you to know that I love you and I'm so happy for you and excited for you, but also sad for myself at the same time. I hope if you're going to share, you will let me know, too. I would just be so thankful if you would take my ridiculous emotions into account when you do. I love you sweetie! GL at your appt!

From Her:
Oh sweetie, of course I understand!! I have been nervous about talking with you about this stuff because I dont want you to think I'm an asshole and rubbing things in your face. That's my fear in this whole journey...I love you sooo much and I'm so sorry what you're experiencing. I really would love to talk to you about what's going on when and if you're ready...no pushing on my end. If things get too hard on your end with knowing stuff, please let me know! I do not want to cause any harm on my end for you of course I appreciate you wanting to be there, and I am always thinking of you and here for you. I love you so much and appreciate that you reached out to me. Talk soon
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BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
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Re: AW: Just Need to Share

  • Aw! I love this! It seems like she is understanding of where you're coming from. What a great friend!
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • That is an awesome friend!

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • She seems like a really great friend!

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    TTC #1 since July 2012

    Cycles 1-9: BFN
    Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
    EDD: June 25, 2014
    Baby Girl born via induction June 26, 2014

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  • I'm glad you guys were able to share your feelings and that's she's so understanding.
  • I'm glad you were able to open up to her, and equally as glad that she was receptive to your feelings. She sounds like a keeper! :)
  • What an awesome friend!
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • I'm so glad you have such a great friend.  They really do make all the difference in the world. 
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    TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad sperm 
    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
    October 2013: We made the decision to stop TTC and live without children.

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  • She sounds like a great friend. :)

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  • I give your friend a lot of credit, but I give you more!  That was a wonderful, mature, honest message that you sent that took a lot of courage.  Having the support and understanding of your friend will make a big difference and ease a lot of your anxiety!
    Diagnosed with Severe DOR at 31 years old (AMH .14 FSH 9.8) 
    D & L are here at 34 weeks 4 days by vaginal and breech delivery on 11/19/2013

  • I give your friend a lot of credit, but I give you more!  That was a wonderful, mature, honest message that you sent that took a lot of courage.  Having the support and understanding of your friend will make a big difference and ease a lot of your anxiety!
    Diagnosed with Severe DOR at 31 years old (AMH .14 FSH 9.8) 
    D & L are here at 34 weeks 4 days by vaginal and breech delivery on 11/19/2013

  • It is obvious you guys have a solid friendship and that is such a blessing. I'm glad you can both appreciate where the other person is coming from and still be supportive.
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    First date July 31, 1999    Married January 28, 2009 
    TTC#1 July 2010 PCOS dx April 2011 
    DS born: February 21, 2012

    TTC#2 June 2013 MMC Sept 2013 (partial molar), CP 02/2014 DS2 born: December 5, 2014
  • It is so great that she is so understanding!  It is great to have friends like that!
    Anniversary 
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    ~Knottie/Nestie Besties with *ecinereb* - Congratulations!~
    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
    Baby N born 5/9/14
  • It is so great that she is so understanding!  It is great to have friends like that!
    Anniversary 
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    ~TTC Buddies with akcrrr and amandaf6383~
    ~Knottie/Nestie Besties with *ecinereb* - Congratulations!~
    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
    Baby N born 5/9/14
  • :-) this makes me happy

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           Me: All Normal DH: .5% Morph
    Cycles 1-14 (Natural) all BFN
                                  Starting IUI#1 procedures Nov '13
                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • I give your friend a lot of credit, but I give you more!  That was a wonderful, mature, honest message that you sent that took a lot of courage.  Having the support and understanding of your friend will make a big difference and ease a lot of your anxiety!

    Thank you, Pink! I'm always nervous about conveying my thoughts and feelings. This makes me feel good.
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    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • What a great friend! Those are the friends that will be around for a long long time. You guys are lucky to have each other.

  • It really warms my heart when I see friendships and relationships like that. I am so happy for you that you have such a friend who is so understanding and sensitive to you!!!!
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  • It sounds like you both have found wonderful friends in each other.  I can't imagine how hard it must have been to share your feelings and I'm so glad they were well received by her.  You guys are lucky to have each other!
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  • I like nice people and strong friendships :) I'm happy you have both! Warm fuzzies for days
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    TTC September 2013 | BFP 11/21/13 | Chart | EDD 8/3/14 | It's a girl! 

    DD born at 42 weeks 1 day | 8/18/14 5:33am | 8lbs 4oz 20.25in of perfection!

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  • That's amazing!
  • She sounds like a really great friend to have :)

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    T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.  


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