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How would you handle this...
We have a neighborhood of about 60 homes.
On my street, the 20-something year old daughter, who lives at home with her parents, is wrapped up in drugs. Twice in the past 3 months, between 5-6 police officers have rolled up to the home. The first time was to make an arrest. This last time, which happened today, I am not sure about, but some of the officers had their weapons drawn as they approached the home.
This girl is hanging out with some rough characters.
I placed a call to our non-emergency line for the police station and spoke with an officer involved with the sole purpose of finding out what neighbors need to be aware of to keep our homes and children safe. He said that it's likely more behaviors will be occurring and that they will be making more visits to this residence. He also advised locking doors, lighting at night, etc.
I asked him about a neighborhood FYI flyer and he said that was a great idea. And to please call 911 for suspicious cars or behaviors.
The parents of the girl are heart-broken over these things. I don't wish to hurt their feelings and have their home be "labeled" anymore than it already is, but I also want people/my neighbors on the street to be extra vigilant. Here are my questions:
1. Would you make a flyer?
2. On this flyer would you put the house address number? Yes or no.
Re: How would you handle this...
NO - I would not put their house number on the flyer. I would imagine most people know who it is, or at least the people in the immediate vicinity do.
If you do a flyer, don't put one on their house, though.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
That said, if you were to distribute this flyer to the neighborhood, you would definitely be overstepping your bounds. It's bad enough that these people have to deal with their wayward drug addicted daughter and you want to further shame them by putting their address on this flyer and distributing it to everyone else like the neighborhood busy body tattle-tale? How would you feel if someone distributed a flyer about you and your family?
I´m pretty sure the rest of the neighbors have seen what goes on - you are not the only one with a window, you know. Just lock your doors, and mind your beeswax already. If they bother you personally, then call the police. Otherwise, let them deal with their problems.
So, update...it was a burglary in progress...tied to drugs.
And, no not everyone knows about this on the street. The way the road curves, many people unless they lives in the stretch of homes we are in would not know about this because they cannot see the home.
Kinda hard to MYOB when three officers are in your front yard with weapons drawn...in plain view of your front window in broad daylight. I didn't even have to leave my desk chair.
Our front room is our office and the desk faces the street. Kinda hard to miss...
Seems to me that you are trying to justify what you probably are going to do regardless of what anyone here tells you.
I find it amazing how you've told other people here to MYOB in other situation that have been posted in these forums, but when it comes to other people telling you to do the same in your situation, you continue to justify that what you are doing is right. Oh, the irony.
I DO like to know about this stuff - so on that front, I do get where you're coming from.
But even so, I don't know that this is really YOUR JOB to inform them. At least in the way you want to do it. You seem to kind of what to shame these people, to make it known that the police have been out because of them. For the fact that you'd even THINK to put their address on the flyer.... you're looking to shame them.
THAT bothers me.
It's one thing to genuinely want to say "Here are some tips to keep yourself safe", or if you wanted to talk about general crime in the area. But if you're going to go down the path of "A house on my street" - don't do it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
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We have a neighborhood watch email list. At one of our National Night Outs people were asked if they wanted to join the mailing list. One person manages it who sends a crime report sort of update (no names or addresses) to those who expressed interest every few months or so or if a particular rash of crime starts to happen. I believe she goes thru the police liason as part of the neighborhood watch. I don't mind getting it, it keeps me on the lookout for suspicious things, etc.
Perhaps instead of focusing on this one incident you approach it in a more global manner. Get involved in a neighborhood watch, volunteer to help at the next National Night Out, whatever you think might benefit the neighborhood in general, not just narrowing in on this one household.
For your reading comprehension...from my OP, because you did not read it or you didn't see this part. I did not say I was going to make a flyer. I asked the forum, "Would you make a flyer?"
Distinction there...see it?
I sincerely doubt that you all who said "MYOB" would be doing that if cops had guns drawn in front of your home.
I have not made a flyer and I am not planning on it due to more information I and another neighbor now have from the police. But also, see OP - the officer I spoke with on the phone said a flyer would be good if I wanted to do one, which is why I wrote this post in the first place to ask what the consensus was about even going that route.
So if you're gonna get snarky - then at least read carefully before posting the snark. That's fair.
But, to the PP who tied this in with the neighborhood watch point - I think you have a great idea and I thought your post was very helpful.
Oh yea, and a neighborhood watch is a good idea if you are that concerned for the safety of your community, although something tells me that you are more concerned with shaming this particular house. I actually feel sorry for your neighbors.
I'm done with this thread. Carry on.
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