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Work Issue, WWGPD? (long)
Okay, so this is stupid and catty (sorry) but I keep thinking
about it so I thought I would get your opinions.
Over the last 2ish years I have grown closer and closer to a
friend/coworker of mine. About 2 months
ago we were extremely close. She knew
all about my IF struggles, I took her to the hospital when she broke her ankle
and even cleaned her house for her. We
hung out 2-3X a month, she has crashed at my place numerous times after too
much wine etc.
This year at work I’m doing really well and she is basically
failing. We are in sales so it’s obvious
to everyone. There is literally a
stack-ranking report that gets published weekly. It doesn’t matter to me at all but it’s
clearly affecting her. Over the last couple
of months I could feel us drifting apart.
I tried everything, asking her if I did something, being nice, making
time for her etc. Then she started to say
mean things to me so I gave her some space.
Last week three separate people have come up to me saying she is going
around talking poorly about me and how she is mad I’m having success at work.
WTF!
I’m trying to get a promotion this year. I can’t be getting into some cat fight in the
office and I certainly don’t need a so called friend spreading high school
gossip about me. So far I’ve basically
just ignored it all and I’m trying to be
the bigger person but some days it really gets to me. Basically I guess it really just hurts my
feelings and makes me nervous.
This is so stupid. I’m 31, I thought I outgrew this BS years ago. Would you ladies just ignore all this or say something to her?
Re: Work Issue, WWGPD? (long)
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermIt's so weird for me. I'm reserved and I don't usually let people in easily. I know she's the kind of person who just goes through friends but I'm not like that at all. Loyalty is important to me. I have never had a friend turn on me like that. I don't even know what to do and it's so messy because she works with me.
I'd be hurt and betrayed, so I'd probably end up confronting her, but it's really up to you. I'd see if you can set something up through HR to set up a meeting. You don't deserve to have to deal with a coworker and supposed friend bad-mouthing you to other coworkers.
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One is, you're drifting apart from a friend. It sucks, and yeah, I would talk to her about it.
The other aspect is that it is affecting work. Just be prepared that if you go to HR, the friendship is really over.
My decision would be based on how you feel about the relationship now. Is it worth saving?
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
I'll never trust this girl again. It's really sad but I just don't play those back and forth games. She does and that's fine but its not my style. I know shes doing this because shes hurting and that makes me feel bad but ultimately thats not my problem. The other weird thing is that there is an 80% chance her and I will get put on the same team next year and then I'll really have to see her all the time. Escalating might make it really hard for me in the future.
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