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PW- I know. But I feel sort of dirty.

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edited November 2013 in Getting Pregnant

So, as I've sort of mentioned to death, I have my first appointment with the RE on Wednesday.

I was just walking by my boss's office, and she pulled me in.  She asked me what day is slowest for me so we could set aside some time to go over a few things- basically an overview of the position and procedures that she never had with me when I started (5 months ago).

I told her Wednesday, which is true, and then mentioned that I have a drs. appt this coming Wednesday, at 9am. She said 'okay' well, maybe in the afternoon, or Thursday.. we'll figure something out.

As I was walking away, she said 'You'd give me lots of notice if you were pregnant, right?'

<insert awkward silence>

After I picked my jaw up off the ground, I responded that I wasn't, I would, should that occur, but I wasn't.

And I walked away.

I was really close to being like, actually, I'm not.  But that's what the appointment's about! How's that for notice?

wtf?

 

ETA: Also- boss's?  Really?  Not boss'? 3-S rule?

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After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398  Beta 2 3/13: 728  Beta 3 3/20: 11,482 
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins! 

Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3


 

Re: PW- I know. But I feel sort of dirty.

  • what is it with bosses asking innapropriate questions?!
  • Yeah, not cool, boss, not cool. Wow. Never once in the 3 years I've been at my job has anyone here even mentioned pregnancy to me. 

    As for your ETA: either is correct. It's up to the individual to choose one or the other and be consistent. Nothing worse than flip flopping all over!
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    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
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  • Booo! That's terrible of her.

    Good luck at your first appointment!
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  • I think that's been her greatest fear since hiring me.

    She keeps eyeing my belly.  One of these days I'm just going to be like, 'yeah, no baby, just fat.'

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    Anniversary

    After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
    Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
    Beta 1 3/11: 398  Beta 2 3/13: 728  Beta 3 3/20: 11,482 
    Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins! 

    Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3


     

  • Ugh. That is awkward. My boss would totally be one to say something like that. He doesn't understand boundaries.

    You handled it well though!
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    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • zamboni00 said:

    She keeps eyeing my belly.  One of these days I'm just going to be like, 'yeah, no baby, just fat.'

    Good lord, how inappropriate! I'd have a hard time keeping my mouth shut.
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    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • Yeah, not cool, boss, not cool. Wow. Never once in the 3 years I've been at my job has anyone here even mentioned pregnancy to me. 

    As for your ETA: either is correct. It's up to the individual to choose one or the other and be consistent. Nothing worse than flip flopping all over!
    You're lucky! I swear I get the pregnant/when are you having a baby comments at my office 3-4 times a week at least.

    One day, I told DH this, I'm going to flip and yell about how "easy" they all say it is.
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
    image
    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • How awkward of her! And rude...

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    "You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss

    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • Plenty of notice?!?! All you have to give in a month in CA (I think). Pregnancy is the one thing ladies can't really hide.

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  • Thanks ladies, I'm glad I am not the only one who feels this is inappropriate, but also am sad I'm not the only one who experiences it!

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    Anniversary

    After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
    Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
    Beta 1 3/11: 398  Beta 2 3/13: 728  Beta 3 3/20: 11,482 
    Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins! 

    Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3


     

  • Who lets people without a filter get so far in a company?? It shouldn't be allowed! That would be a great rule. Demotion for lack of filter with employees.

    My new boss is much better, but my old boss wouldn't have thought twice about saying something like that. I give you a lot of credit for handling it so gracefully. Good luck with your appointment.



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    .. Living our happily ever after <3


     

     
     
  • That's not cool of her.  Good luck at your appointment!!!!  :)

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