May 2012 Weddings
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qod 11-8

Would you rather be a guest at a wedding or part of the wedding party?
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  • I usually say I rather be a guest less stress and money, but lately since we don't have too many weddings I kinda am hoping to be asked haah i probably regret saying that!
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  • The only wedding I've been in is my own. I would rather be a guest.
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  • I have only been in one wedding (other than my own) and I usually have more fun as a guest. It's also less expensive!!

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  • I have also only been in my wedding. I have been a guest at several and I am in my cousins upcoming wedding. I think I would rather be in the wedding. I guess for me it's that I feel a little closer to the couple that way and feel like such a big part. However I could do with out the expenses but I guess it depends on who it's for.

    I am in my cousins upcoming wedding and I don't mind the expense. With that said she is more like my little sister than my cousin.
  • I'd rather just be a guest.  I was my sister's MOH and honestly it was a total time sucking pain in the ass. 

     I'm not sure how this wedding that I'm in next year is going to be, I'm one of 9 bridesmaids and we're scattered all over the country.  I've actually considered just telling her that the time and expense is too much, but I'm afraid of hurting her feelings along with she was my MOH and really put a bunch of time and energy into making sure my day was special. 

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  • It depends on whose wedding it is. I would rather be a guest then "one of five BM's who hardly know each other". Now I am more often photographing when I go to weddings and honestly enjoy that more then being a guest or in the wedding party...you get to hang out with the wedding party beforehand and really get to know the couple but can still leave at a reasonable time(usually) and have something to do if things get boring or awkward if you don't know many people.
  • I would honestly rather be a guest. I have been a bridesmaid 4 times now... And its a pain in the ass. Though I would never turn it down if someone asked me, but it can be a lot of work, and a big expense. Being a guest is just so much easier !
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  • I would much rather be a guest. I have been a BM twice and it wasn't until H's cousin's wedding were we both just guests and it was fun to just enjoy ourselves without all of the WP stuff.

    The next wedding we will attend is my brothers where H is a GM. I will not be a happy camper if my FSIL makes a head table without people's S/Os. It will suck to basically sit like a single gal at my brother's wedding.
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