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WTF (pr not me) and an update

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edited November 2013 in Getting Pregnant
DH is in LV for a conference, and he just called me in tears. His best friend called him to tell him that they are expecting and will be posting on FB. At least he had the decency to call.

Here's why I'm pissed. She doesn't even have a job. He doesn't even really want kids. They fight all the time. They had just "pulled the goalie" to see what happened. I have to order my medications for IVF tonight. WHY does it feel like everyone else gets to get pregnant so damn easily? Why do people who shouldn't be having kids (financially) get to have kids? I am so pissed.

And DH is 3000 miles away. He's crying. I'm crying. We can't even console each other. I am totally broken right now.


Update: Because I need to focus on the positive, I'm posting this. I have a wonderful friend in my neighbor who came over last night. She cried with me, guys. Cried. DH called his mom, who in turn talked to my mom. I guess she said DH is devastated and she is just heartbroken because she doesn't know what to say. Maybe she's finally "getting it" when it comes to our struggles. She's been anything but supportive during this journey, but knowing that she's heartbroken makes me think there is hope she will stop saying things like, "You need to have sex when Poppies is ovulating" and "You need to be excited for your brother right now. This is a very exciting time of his life [having a second baby]" and "So, they still don't know what's causing all this?"
TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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  • I am so sorry Poppies. I can't imagine how hard that must be, and to be so far away from each other to boot.

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  • I'm so sorry that you and your H are going through this. ((Hugs))

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  • It's a shitty situation. And ridiculously unfair. I'm so sorry you guys have to deal with that news when you're so far away from each other. Sending lots of love and ((hugs)).
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  • mrsvedomrsvedo member
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    edited November 2013
    I'm so sorry. News like that is never easy but it's even harder when your primary support is thousands of miles away. :(
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  • I just want a hug :(
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
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  • I wish I lived close enough to come give you a big cuddly hug. And wine. I'm so sorry. :-( IF blows big donkey balls!
  • ((Hugs)) poppies, I'm sorry you had to hear that, especially with DH away.

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  • I'm so sorry poppies. I don't know if that kind of hurt and anger towards the universe ever goes away. I wish I could say that it does, but I can't. It's just very unfair when people who don't care/don't appreciate it/didn't even try get it so easily. I'm sorry you can't be together to console each other. Hugs

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                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • I'm so sorry you have to go through this, lots of hugs to you and YH 
    DX: 6/2012 PCOS  TTC: 6/2013  BFP: 9/6/2013  Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
    BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625

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  • I'm so sorry Poppies, and I'm sorry your H is so far away to be able to have that support.  

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
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    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • I'm so sorry Poppies.  When does your Dh get to come home?
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    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
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  • I'd give you a hug if I could.

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  • poppies717poppies717 member
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    edited November 2013
    He doesn't get home until Thursday night. He called a friend and asked her to come over to talk to me. I got my hug. I am on the phone with my mom now. I just hate that he has no one to support him right now. He's been with his job for a month, so it's not like he has any friends to confide in.
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • I'm so sorry poppies. I hope your H is home soon.  It's not the same, but we are all here for you.
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  • Oh poppies, I am so sorry. It is totally unfair and shitty! Sending you lots and lots of hugs!

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    Beta 1 3/11: 398  Beta 2 3/13: 728  Beta 3 3/20: 11,482 
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  • I'm so sorry poppies! Hugs for you!
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  • I'm sorry poppies.
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    Cycle 13, 100 mg Clomid & IUI#2 - BFP 6/27/13 - CP
    Met with an awesome new RE in September 2013 new plan: 5mg Femera & IUI #3
    Surprise Natural BFP 9/9/13 - Welcomed our baby boy 5/25/14

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  • So sorry poppies. The situation is bad enough and to not have your H there I'm sure makes it harder! I don't understand how it's fair. Sending hugs your way. Hope your H comes home soon.


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  • Oh poppies I am so sorry. Sending so many hugs.
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    FET September 12, 2014!
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    Beta #2 14dp5dt- 1631
    Beta #3 20dp5dt- 12,813
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  • I'm so sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry. :( That sucks so bad, and it's even worse that you're apart. I'm glad you got a hug and someone to come be with you. Big squishy ((hugs)).
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

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    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
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  • Sorry :(
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    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
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  • I am so so sorry :-(  Sending lots of love your way!
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  • I'm sorry, poppies. IF is so unfair. ((hugs))
  • I'm so sorry You two are going through this and your apart!

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  • I'm so sorry Poppies. :-( I wish I could give you a big fat hug. <3

    Cheering on all of my 3T ladies!  DX with PCOS - 11/2012 DH S/A & HSG - Normal - Too many rounds of Clomid = BFNs - New RE 5/2014 - Repeat Testing - Losing 40lbs before injects/IUI



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  • Update: Because I need to focus on the positive, I'm posting this. I have a wonderful friend in my neighbor who came over last night. She cried with me, guys. Cried. DH called his mom, who in turn talked to my mom. I guess she said DH is devastated and she is just heartbroken because she doesn't know what to say. Maybe she's finally "getting it" when it comes to our struggles. She's been anything but supportive during this journey, but knowing that she's heartbroken makes me think there is hope she will stop saying things like, "You need to have sex when Poppies is ovulating" and "You need to be excited for your brother right now. This is a very exciting time of his life [having a second baby]" and "So, they still don't know what's causing all this?"
    I'm so glad you had that support, even if it wasn't with DH right now. It makes a world of difference to have someone you can call to come over and cry with you and give you hugs and just be there so you can let it all out.

    And I really hope this does mean your MIL is getting it. I hope she can be more supportive of you guys going forward now, even if it did have to take her son calling her so broken down for her to finally "get it."
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    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • So sorry you have to go through this, especially with YH so far away.  Glad you got some support and that YH will be home tomorrow so you can be there for each other. (((hugs)))
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  • I'm so sorry  :(
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  • I'm so sorry Poppies. It drives me nuts when I see people who aren't financially stable get/stay pregnant so easily. It is so so so unfair. I wish I could give you a hug as well. Glad your friend was able to come over.

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    3 years. 5 losses.

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