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how to deal with this situation?

so we have friends that have been trying to get pregnant for a while.  right after I got my BFP I noticed this same friend pinned some baby stuff on pinterest and it made me question if she was pregnant.  So I said something to DH and he said something about the pinterest thing to another friend and found that they are indeed also expecting a baby! I'm so excited for them but i'm not supposed to know.

well this weekend we'll see them for the first time since we both got our BFP's and i'm sure Ben will want to say something about me being pregnant to our friends.

but if I didn't know that she was pregnant I would want to let her know ahead of time so that she wasn't suprised/hurt by the announcment. she doesn't really fb and we don't email so I was thinking about sending  her a text. what do you think?

am I over thinking this?

Re: how to deal with this situation?

  • I guess I am confused. 

    You are PG and naturally will be talking about it with your friends :-) 

    She is PG, so if she is telling people/has already told people, then she will be talking about her PG also. If not, then I would just keep quiet about it in case she isn't sharing yet. 

    Is there any reason she would be hurt?
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  • cinderin said:
    I guess I am confused. 

    You are PG and naturally will be talking about it with your friends :-) 

    She is PG, so if she is telling people/has already told people, then she will be talking about her PG also. If not, then I would just keep quiet about it in case she isn't sharing yet. 

    Is there any reason she would be hurt?

    I don't think they're telling people yet. this person that told my husband wasn't supposed to say anything.

    and they had an early 2nd tri m/c several years ago and had been trying for about a year this time to get pg. so thats the only reason I was thinking she would be sensitive to a pg announcement. 

    and we haven't actually told any of our friends. we have our NT scan on Wed and we'll start after that.

  • Do they know that you are pg? If not, I'm sure she's thinking the same thing you are...how she is going to announce to you and your DH lol.

    haha I didn't think about that! as far as I know they don't know i'm pregnant.
  • cinderincinderin member
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    edited November 2013
    amccul20 said:
    cinderin said:
    I guess I am confused. 

    You are PG and naturally will be talking about it with your friends :-) 

    She is PG, so if she is telling people/has already told people, then she will be talking about her PG also. If not, then I would just keep quiet about it in case she isn't sharing yet. 

    Is there any reason she would be hurt?

    I don't think they're telling people yet. this person that told my husband wasn't supposed to say anything.

    and they had an early 2nd tri m/c several years ago and had been trying for about a year this time to get pg. so thats the only reason I was thinking she would be sensitive to a pg announcement. 

    and we haven't actually told any of our friends. we have our NT scan on Wed and we'll start after that.

    If they aren't telling and you aren't supposed to know - then I would just pretend/act like you don't know. :-) 

    when/how are you announcing?
    "How long till my soul gets it right? Can any human being ever reach the highest light? Except for Galileo, god rest his soul, king of night vision, king of insight." ~ Indigo Girls Anniversary
    When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.

    Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
  • we aren't doing any sort of formal announcement, and I won't do anything on FB we'll just tell people randomly I think

  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
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    edited November 2013
    Funny situation.  I wouldn't tell her ahead of time in this case.  I would probably just tell her very carefully and in a sensitive manner the day of and when she tells you too I would say something about her Pinterest activity and how you thought that might be the case .  Be prepared- they might not be ready to tell after their late loss so if they don't say anything don't be too surprised. 

    Congratulations again!

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  • I agree with @LittleLady77

    Speak sweetly so that if you ever have to eat your words, they don't taste bad.

    ~Unknown~

    Lesson learned!!

  • thank you everyone! I know I'm totally making this more than what it needs to be.

    I like your idea LL!

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