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Depressed around Christmas
So how do you fight it We moved this year, and I feel like I have been constantly running. Now I have three weeks to get presents for everyone.
Even worse my husband is not romantic. Case in point I didn't make a list for my bday so he just didn't buy me anything.
Oh and I feel bad for even whining since I know so many people have "real problems."
Re: Depressed around Christmas
As for that husband of yours... I get it. I had to let go of my lofty expectations on how he should behave/act/react to situations. And rather appreciate the ways he shows love- and not assume it can only be done by finding me the perfect gift or buying me a valentines day card. I like surprises too, but this year for my birthday I just got a camera I wanted, and told him it was from him and thank you.
Take some time for yourself. Cut out the excess from your holiday to-do list where you can. As I like to say... step away from the crazy. and feel free to whine, it is nice to just let it all out sometimes!
Now that I'm out of my job I have Christmas spirit coming out the wazoo. It may just be about finding the why behind your depression.
Yes, this! I would make a list of all the things that you think you need to do before Christmas and then try to weed out some things that aren't truly necessary.
I think a lot of people feel a little blue or even depressed over the holidays. But, If you truly think it's depression, I would contact your doctor and work on a treatment plan.
I didn't need to "seek help" for the blues. Working out and just talking to my friends on the phone did a world of wonders. Good luck- I think it is pretty common this type of year.
Ditto the others! I usually get overwhelmed at the holidays as well, but I try to keep it simple, while still enjoying the spirit of the holidays. I try not to go overboard, I make to do lists, I delegate to DH, and I do a lot of online shopping. For decorating, we did it the Friday after Thanksgiving and made it fun by taking breaks to watch the Grinch or drink hot chocolate (the boys were really into it this year, so that also helped make decorating not feel like such a chore). I also try to focus on one thing at a time, rather than get stressed about everything at once.
DH wants to buy me gifts that I love, but he completely lacks the ability to pick something out on his own, so I give him lists. I also ask him for a list because there's usually always something on it that I didn't know that he wanted. I'm sitting with Amber on the greedy train, because I would rather get gifts, than get nothing at all!
There's nothing wrong with being overwhelmed or complaining about things, you are entitled to your feelings! If you are feeling as if it's too much, having a conversation with your Dr. would be a good idea.
Also, anyone can look Pinterest perfect with a quality camera and photoshop!
If the depression is indeed just stress, and being tired/overwhelmed, then I woudl just muddle through and try to find the joy in the small things (decorating a new home!). Not every year is going to be one for the record books, so its OK to do the minimum this year. But, like the other ladies said, if you think it is something more, def. talk to a doctor. Perspective is one thing, remembering that you don't have the worst problems in the world, but it is OK to feel what you feel! Don't discount that.
Lists help me cope. Also trying to prioritize. And remember, sometimes simple is better for everyone. Finally, I usually try to plan something fun to look forward to when its all over.
Maybe instead of exchanging gifts with your hubby you can plan a night out or weekend away to be romantic. If you don't want to give him a specific list for gifts, do you have a sister or a friend who could take him shopping? Maybe simply letting him know your expectations well help!
Good luck!
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