Background: I was raised Catholic and my DH was raised UCC. We were married in a UCC church over four years ago by the same pastor that baptized him and married his parents. Neither of us joined that particular church, so I've never registered anywhere but a Catholic Church.
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My brother asked me to be my nephew's godmother. In order to be a godparent, you need to be Catholic, over 16, and have all your sacraments (including marriage) through the church. So, I went to our local Catholic Church and registered. However, he said that in the eyes of the church, my marriage isn't valid because we didn't get married in a catholic service.
The priest said the only way that he will give me a recommendation to be my nephew's godparent is if DH and I renew our vows in the church. Surprisingly, DH has agreed to this and I'm going in on Sunday to set it up.
DH couldn't have been cuter about it. He said it comes at a perfect time because the baby is almost here and it is like we are recommitting ourselves to our marriage and he gets to tell the world all over again how much he loves me.

No real point to this. I think it's a major hoop to jump through in order to be a godparent, but DH is being so supportive and I'm thankful he realizes how important this is to me and thought I would share the news.
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It really depends on the church in my experience. When we baptized Zack, my BFF was not married in the church (she's Catholic but married a Muslim so they couldn't get married in the church) and they didn't even question her being a godmother. For me to be a godmother for my nephew recently, they asked that we provide a copy of my sacraments. They wanted them to show I was at least baptized and confirmed, but didn't care about marriage. We baptized Delilah at a different church and they had the rule that if the godparent was married, it needed to have been in the church. So definitely not standardized.
And technically only one of the godparents needs to have the sacraments and the other doesn't have to have them, but then they only are a witness in the eyes of the church intead of a godparent.
ETA: That is really sweet of your H though.
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@JennaHack when they read you Rites of Marriage, did they specifically mention raising your children in accordance with the Catholic Church or was it the "law of God and his church?"
@alexisanna44 no mini-event for us. We probably will go out for breakfast afterwards (this church does them directly after mass) and then DH and I will do something ourselves.
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Okay. I know my husband doesn't plan on converting. Honestly, I know we will raise them Christian, but we probably will attend both churches. So that's why I'm questioning.
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Like me, you will need to have your marriage blessed by the church in order to have a baptism.
exciting news about the vow renewal!! I can wait to see pictures.
are you going to wear white?!!
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I honestly don't even think we will take pictures (I guarantee you my mom will try to). My church does the vow renewals quickly after mass so we should be in and out in under 15 minutes. Before my baby shower, I'm going to mass to tell our priest that we want to do it ASAP.