January 2012 Weddings
shellyamf
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Vent
Just needed to vent. P is texting me and is all stressed and upset because we have no money. This is a first in the whole time we've been together. We usually have a decent savings. Well I guess Progressive accidentally charged us twice for our insurance so it caused us to overdraft and he transferred the rest of the money from his personal account into our joint account to cover it. Now he's b*tching because he can't go get a haircut or get groceries. He called Progressive but they said it's going to be 20 days before the refund check gets to us.
My frustration here is that he didn't have to purchase the insurance this week. We still have at least a month left on our current insurance. Yes we will get a refund from them but not for a few weeks. Why he felt he needed to do that right now, I don't know. And I brought that up to him before he purchased the new stuff. Secondly, I'm frustrated with Progressive for the double charge and how long it's going to take to refund. Thanks a lot.
I can't remember if I've shared this or not, but I was married once before. It was short, I was young, it didn't work for a lot of reasons. But during that time I was seriously poor. Like had to scrounge change to get groceries, did the whole payday loan thing, then struggled to get out from under it. I couldn't pay my rent on time a lot and even got an eviction notice at one point. I know what it's like to struggle with money. So while our account may be "empty" or super close to it right now, I know we'll be okay. P gets paid on Monday and my parents are giving me money for graduation in a week. (My mom already told me.) I've shared that with him. I know it's going to work out and I'm trying not to stress. I have enough stress right now with finals and the house not being sold. So getting text after text from him about having no money, blah, blah, blah, is just making me cry. It's making me feel awful because I took Lily to get pictures this week at Target and bought the CD. I talked to him before I did it and he told me we still had the money to cover it. So now I feel awful. I know he has food, and his damn haircut can wait 3 days until he gets paid but that doesn't make me feel any less awful.
Which just brings back all of my angry feelings toward P. His work offered to pay for an extended stay hotel for November while he looked for a place to rent. It was his bull headed stubbornness about how he "wasn't going to do that". So we made the trip in October and found a rental. If he had accepted his work's offer it would have saved us a month of rent. That's almost $1000 right there. Plus we wouldn't have made the trip in October. While his work covered most of those expenses like the hotel. We still paid for my airfare and food. More money there. I could keep going. It's extremely hard not to say "I told you so" to him right now, but I'm not because I don't want to make things worse. So now I'm sitting here trying not to cry and I really need to be working on my last papers.
On the up side, Lily is just being super cute chattering away. She's started trying to help me with things and she knows who Mama and Dada are. She's started saying uh-oh which is just oh so cute. She gives kisses and lays her head on you for loves. The last few days she has started to stand not holding on to anything. Usually she falls within 10 seconds but every now and then she can stand all by herself for at least 30 seconds to a minute. I know she's going to take those first steps pretty soon. Ack!!! Then she will really be mobile.
Thanks for listening/reading. Just really really stressed.
My frustration here is that he didn't have to purchase the insurance this week. We still have at least a month left on our current insurance. Yes we will get a refund from them but not for a few weeks. Why he felt he needed to do that right now, I don't know. And I brought that up to him before he purchased the new stuff. Secondly, I'm frustrated with Progressive for the double charge and how long it's going to take to refund. Thanks a lot.
I can't remember if I've shared this or not, but I was married once before. It was short, I was young, it didn't work for a lot of reasons. But during that time I was seriously poor. Like had to scrounge change to get groceries, did the whole payday loan thing, then struggled to get out from under it. I couldn't pay my rent on time a lot and even got an eviction notice at one point. I know what it's like to struggle with money. So while our account may be "empty" or super close to it right now, I know we'll be okay. P gets paid on Monday and my parents are giving me money for graduation in a week. (My mom already told me.) I've shared that with him. I know it's going to work out and I'm trying not to stress. I have enough stress right now with finals and the house not being sold. So getting text after text from him about having no money, blah, blah, blah, is just making me cry. It's making me feel awful because I took Lily to get pictures this week at Target and bought the CD. I talked to him before I did it and he told me we still had the money to cover it. So now I feel awful. I know he has food, and his damn haircut can wait 3 days until he gets paid but that doesn't make me feel any less awful.
Which just brings back all of my angry feelings toward P. His work offered to pay for an extended stay hotel for November while he looked for a place to rent. It was his bull headed stubbornness about how he "wasn't going to do that". So we made the trip in October and found a rental. If he had accepted his work's offer it would have saved us a month of rent. That's almost $1000 right there. Plus we wouldn't have made the trip in October. While his work covered most of those expenses like the hotel. We still paid for my airfare and food. More money there. I could keep going. It's extremely hard not to say "I told you so" to him right now, but I'm not because I don't want to make things worse. So now I'm sitting here trying not to cry and I really need to be working on my last papers.
On the up side, Lily is just being super cute chattering away. She's started trying to help me with things and she knows who Mama and Dada are. She's started saying uh-oh which is just oh so cute. She gives kisses and lays her head on you for loves. The last few days she has started to stand not holding on to anything. Usually she falls within 10 seconds but every now and then she can stand all by herself for at least 30 seconds to a minute. I know she's going to take those first steps pretty soon. Ack!!! Then she will really be mobile.
Thanks for listening/reading. Just really really stressed.
Re: Vent
Aw. That's hard.
T does a similar thing sometimes. He'll ask if he can do xyz and I'll tell him there's "no extra money" and he whines about it. It makes me feel awful, but I know we need the money for something else.
I love seeing the picture of Lilly on Facebook. She is so precious.
Hang in there! = )
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Aleigha, I'll mention it to him, but knowing him, he'll just wait until he gets here. He's so freaking stubborn about the stupidest things.