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MariaBend25
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what would you do?
As a recent newlywed living out of state, my parents just got invited to a party for one of my cousins' recent accomplishments. Inside the card was a sticky note saying to let me and my husband know about this party....which we obviously can't attend from 1000 miles away. It seems like a gift grab, but if so why not spend 40 cents to send us an invite? Part of me thinks it is because my aunt and uncle just attended our wedding and gave us a generous gift so I feel like maybe they expect something back, yet among the cousins we have never gifted each other for anything other than Christmas white elephant gifts, leaving the gift-giving to the aunts and uncles. Does getting married change this and mean we now need to give gifts for accomplishment parties when we haven't done so in our family in the past? Do I need to send anything to them, considering the only way I even know about the party is a post-it note inside the invite my parent's received?
Was this tacky on their part? Does being married warrant giving gifts when we normally wouldn't have? What would you do?
Re: what would you do?
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When DH and I were married, his cousins were invited. He only has 4 first cousins. Even though all were adults, two of them (who were siblings) signed a card with their parents...did not give us a gift even though they also brought dates. Whatever...that's fine. But less than a week after we were back from our honeymoon, we received a save the date card for one of those cousins. Then came shower invitations(neither cousin attended mine or sent a gift) and then the wedding. And since DH and were married, we gave a card and gift from the two of us. At the time, and to this date, I thought the whole thing odd and a bit unfair since the weddings were within a year of each other. Somehow in his family, being married makes you more of an adult???
So I get your confusion about post married etiquette.