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wiggyslilsis · December 2013

This was a duplicate of the weekend plans so I made it into the Confessions thread! Anybody have anything juicy?

bridget0117 · December 2013

Nothing to see here.

bridget0117 · December 2013

Lol now I need to delete my weekend plans. Sorry

smbenevides1989 · December 2013

I have a confession:

I hate it when DH is on the phone and I find out its his mom. I can't stand the fact that he talks to her on the phone and acts like nothing is wrong after everything she has done/acted. But I know its just a face because as soon as he's off the phone, he goes back to disliking her. The only reason he still keeps in contact with her is because she is sick and doesn't want to have the regret of losing her with hatred in his system.

He can talk to her all she likes, but I still don't like her for how she acts towards me.

wiggyslilsis · December 2013

Sorry for the confusion @bridget0117

I'm sorry @smbenevides1989 that sounds like a tough situation.

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

I confess:

We were going to buy hockey tickets for SIL and BIL as a Christmas gift. There was a package for 2 tickets, 2 hot dogs, and 2 drinks, but was only good for 3 days. We were going to pick a day that we knew BIL wouldn't have to work (SIL is on maternity leave). Since it's before Christmas, we had to say something to them. They don't want us to get that date because there is a WWE pay per view that night and they don't want to miss it (we watch too, they also want us to buy it). SIL said BIL would request off and if he didn't get it, just call off for a different date. Since we've listen to WAY too much about them and money (this would get too long if I explained it all), DH and I don't think it's right for BIL to take time off. So we told them there are sold out completely.

I feel like all my confession have something to do with them, so I'll add another.

My BF just found out she's PR with her second. She called me freaking out that she was worried she had an eptopic pregnancy. I comforted her, but in the back of mind I told her off because she's one of the people who side eyed my picture frame of the u/s.

smbenevides1989 · December 2013

Meh. I don't see her for any holiday or for any reason. DH visits her with DD so I have a free day to do whatever I feel like. But since what happened, he only sees her once every two months instead of twice a month. She dug a hole for herself.

Sorry, that vented more than I should have.

lb1117 · December 2013

I'm annoyed that my IL are changing their minds about having a shower for Baby. They didn't even want to come to my bridal ones, let alone throw one. But, I helped host one for my SIL when she was pregnant (because none of them would speak in public) and they hosted bridal one for my new SIL when she married my BIL in the spring. I feel like I am constantly treated differently.

smbenevides1989 · December 2013

@lb1117 I'm sorry you having troubles with your ILs. Did they also act like that with the SILs?

If my ILs were doing that, I would just tell them to forget the whole thing. My ILs didn't show up to my baby shower or my bridal shower.

lb1117 · December 2013

smbenevides1989 said:

@lb1117 I'm sorry you having troubles with your ILs. Did they also act like that with the SILs?

If my ILs were doing that, I would just tell them to forget the whole thing. My ILs didn't show up to my baby shower or my bridal shower.

No, just me.

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

@smbenevides1989 Sounds like not fun situation, but at least you don't have to personally deal with her.

@lb1117 Sounds to me like different treatment and not right. I'm so sorry they are being crappy.

bridget0117 · December 2013

My MIL didn't go to my baby shower or bridal shower either. MIL and SILs all planned a baby shower for me and like a week before the date they had set they canceled everything.

I have a lot of problems with my ILs. DH and his sister got a house for his mom because his mom has a foreclosure and they obviously wouldn't give her another loan. She's made 15 late payments, I wish he could get out of the loan but I know he can't

I guess my FFFC is that Sometimes I wish we would never have to see them again. And that they would get kicked out of the house that way DH and i could take over the house.

lb1117 · December 2013

DH keeps saying I should be grateful that they are coming to the one my mom is hosting at my church. But...I am already feeling stressed about that one and having them come isn't helping.

I need to find a way to talk to my mom about the shower before it happens so maybe it won't cause me so much anxiety.

bridget0117 · December 2013

Good luck with all that LB. Your shower should be fun and it should be a time for you to relax and enjoy it instead of worrying and having anxiety.

wiggyslilsis · December 2013

@nightmare_of_beauty it seems like they cause you a lot of stress. And they seem awfully picky about their presents. I am sorry that you put so much thought into these gifts and they just don't seem to appreciate it. Very frustrating.

smbenevides1989 · December 2013

DH keeps saying I should be grateful that they are coming to the one my mom is hosting at my church. But...I am already feeling stressed about that one and having them come isn't helping.

I need to find a way to talk to my mom about the shower before it happens so maybe it won't cause me so much anxiety.

I understand exactly what you mean. I'm sorry they give you so much trouble.

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

@wiggyslilsis I could on for days about those two. In these recent situations, I do need to learn to it let it go. It's a bad fault of mine.

pennstated912 · December 2013

My FFFC:

I'm glad that the baby is almost here so people will stop touching my belly. And talking to it (yes, talking to it. My mom puts her face basically against my belly and "talks" to the baby. It freaks me the hell out).

I'm genuinely thinking that next time, we just don't tell anyone until I start obviously showing. I'm so incredibly uncomfortable with all the touching.

smbenevides1989 · December 2013

pennstated912 said:

My FFFC: I'm glad that the baby is almost here so people will stop touching my belly. And talking to it (yes, talking to it. My mom puts her face basically against my belly and "talks" to the baby. It freaks me the hell out). I'm genuinely thinking that next time, we just don't tell anyone until I start obviously showing. I'm so incredibly uncomfortable with all the touching.

My MIL would grab my belly and make this screeching happy voice and talk to the baby in Spanish. Um no. I already told DH that I refuse to go over there when pregnant - if I get pregnant again - and seeing how our current situation is with me currently not associating with them, I know it won't happen.

wiggyslilsis · December 2013

@nightmare_of_beauty So where have you landed on gifts for them? You had such awesome ideas to begin with

sgautschi · December 2013

My FFC is that I buy Starbucks with cash so DH doesn't know. Sometimes I pull out cash at the grocery store just so I have some to I buy myself coffee. I have a problem...lol

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

@wiggyslilsis I'm not sure yet. I've debated money because of SIL keeps telling me that they don't know if they'll be able to pay off their Christmas layaway for the kids. I'm not sure I want to do that because I don't know if they'll actually use it toward the layaway.They aren't always smart with their money.

They've said not to get them anything because they can't get us anything. I can't do that, I enjoy giving gifts, I don't need a gift in return. I'm thinking about going and putting money on their layaway without telling them. I still have to talk to DH.

lb1117 · December 2013

@sgautschi - I used to do the same thing. Now, I have the Starbucks apps so he can't keep track. When I get cards as gifts, they get loaded on the app. Since I am still helping with eBay, I take paypal money to reload the app when I run out. Then, everyone is happy!

DangerMuffin23 · December 2013

@nightmareofbeauty . . . I know that this situation with bil and sil is very stressful all around, and I don't know your family, so take this only as you want to: when I tell people not to get me a gift I really truly mean it and would really rather they didn't. I know you find pleasure in it, and that's lovely, but maybe they were hinting at putting more money towards their kids or something? Or maybe deep down they'd be ashamed if you got them something and they couldn't give you something, I don't know. I'm really a rambler tonight so I apologize. If you were to want to help out with the layaway, I would want to go with them to the store and pay it there so that you know the money went where it belonged. If you're not doing something for the kids on top if that, I'd want to be given some credit for it as well on Christmas Day, but that's just me. Hugs and hth!

wiggyslilsis · December 2013

@nightmare_of_beauty
Honestly, I wouldn't give them money. I know you really want to help them out but I don't think it will really help them and it kinda feels like them using you especially since your gifts have been so kind and thoughtful. I think paying on their lay way would be very kind of you but it bugs me because like with the Disney on ice gift...you are getting left out of those gifts. I want those kids to know just how much you love them and want to do for them. Maybe the parent's gift could be some money on the layaway but the kid's could still get something personally from you?

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

Oh don't worry! We have already bought gifts for all three kids! We went shopping on Black Friday and got them some awesome deals! The money for the layaway would be BIL and SIL gift from us. I'm sorry, I should have made that more clear. We actually talked to MIL about it and I think we are going to do it. I do feel like telling them is a bit AW, but since MIL knows if there is an issue they'll say something to her and she can explain if needed.

@ DangerMuffin23 It is because they don't have the money and I know that. They are in a different situation than we are.

I think our biggest issue over the tickets both time is them trying to dictate their gifts. Like I said, I need to let it go. Next time we need to not give them options.

wiggyslilsis · December 2013

@nightmare_of_beauty That makes sense

well I think you are doing the right thing and I hope that they really appreciate it. I can't wait to hear about the kiddos getting their gifts

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