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kelme202
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Splitting holiday time
This year the hubs and I actually are not working for Christmas. So, it has become a very stressful issue to try and figure out how we are going to split our time between our respective families. We both have divorced parents that have their our significant others, and our siblings are also beginning to create their own families. We live about 2 hours away from everyone else, and are free from work Christmas eve and Christmas. He is a firefighter and I'm a nurse, so to have the holiday off is rare, and may not happen again for a while. So, all in all I'm stressing about how to split our time among everyone, and still having a nice time. I feel like maybe a large holiday gathering at our house would be appropriate. How is everyone else approaching this issue? What has worked in the past?
Thanks for the advice!
Re: Splitting holiday time
I wouldn't get caught up in the "being fair/ being even" aspect of it, to be honest. Figure out what you and DH would truly enjoy. Would you really like to host a big party (but keep in mind, "everyone" may not come)? If so, then do it.
Would you really enjoy running around to 4 different houses? If so, then fine, do it.
OR - would you rather hit up 2 houses? If so, then DO it.
This is YOUR holiday too - you don't have to make it all about "oh- but we have to be fair to everyone else" if that wont' be fun for you.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I'd suggest hosting if you enjoy doing it. Otherwise, just go where you'll have the best time.
call them, skype them, whatever you need to do -- won't be possible to split your time between so many people.
I've heard of more and more families celebrating on a different day due to similar situations. One of my co-workers tells her kids, go be with your in-laws, your dad or wherever for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, but all her kids and grandkids come to her house the Saturday after Christmas to celebrate with her. She goes to church & may visit with a friend on Christmas Day, but then she gets almost a full day of her kids and grandkids instead a few rushed hours.