Family Matters
sdecker7
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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H
Re: H
He's already lied to you about the extent of his transgression, how do you know you can ever trust him again? You are always going to be over top of him because of this - can you honestly say you want to put yourself through that?
And who knows how long this was going on with this other girl....HE introduced her a year ago? HAH! I wouldn't be surprised if he had something going on with her already at that point and figured that by introducing her, it might deflect attention away from what was going on.
Think long and hard about whether or not you want to stay because once a cheater always a cheater.
But yea, the H is to blame - I could never stay with someone who cheated. Especially if his own mother knows about it - may as well hang a sign on your forehead saying 'I'm a doormat who will stay with an unfaithful pos'
OP has been married to this guy for less than a year and he shit on their vows by behaving like a lying cheating scumbag. But OP 'loves him' and wants to work things out. But by working things out, it means policing who he is friends with going forward.
OP, you are free to not take our advice and do as you wish, but don't come crying here when your H inevitably does this again. I say cut your losses and kick him to the curb because there are plenty of men that honor their vows and do not do this to their wives. Your H is definitely not one of them.
This way it can't be deleted by the OP.
Cheating?
He's out.
That's all you need to do; show him the door. Dealbreaker and goodbye.
His behavior is nauseating and wrong, in just about every country, galaxy and planet:
THENNNN, when she figured it was over with, she found additional texts between him and HIS MOTHER, saying that he kissed this other woman. OP said she actually suspected something was up when her H introduced this chick to her a year ago, so I imagine this little affair was going on for a while - most likely before they were even married. I've probably left out some of the details, but there you have it.
OP has been married to this guy for less than a year and he shit on their vows by behaving like a lying cheating scumbag. But OP 'loves him' and wants to work things out. But by working things out, it means policing who he is friends with going forward.
OP, you are free to not take our advice and do as you wish, but don't come crying here when your H inevitably does this again. I say cut your losses and kick him to the curb because there are plenty of men that honor their vows and do not do this to their wives. Your H is definitely not one of them.
Married less than a year = get this joke of a marriage annulled in a civil court. Indeed this affair's going on way before they got married; why did he even waste the time of the OP???
For the record, I don't take things lightly when it comes to marital issues. I wouldn't tell someone to just get divorced unless it was something serious. Cheating falls into that category. Cheating = deal breaker