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I feel so bad for my mom... (Long)

My second baby shower was yesterday. This one was thrown by my mom. She has been so super excited about this LO and did a whole theme surrounded around the theme of our nursery (stars, moons and teddy bears).

However, Mother Nature is a jerk. We weren't supposed to get snow until after 4pm yesterday and instead 7 inches of snow fell in Philadelphia, along with a sheet of ice starting at noon - and my shower was supposed to start at 1pm. When I arrived to the restaurant, my mom and I were the only people there. Out of 25 RSVPs, only 6 people showed up (and DH and my brother came).

She put in so much hard work. She hand made all the favors (mason jars with blue candy), made a banner with my bump pictures, she got this huge beautiful cake, and organized two games (a baby word scramble and a match the candy to the PR/BR-related terms, ex. "epidural" = LifeSavers). She worked on all this for weeks and I know spent a lot of money.

She said it doesn't matter and she was more worried about me, but I know this crushed her. I kept telling her how beautiful everything looked and how much I appreciated everything and that our LO was lucky to have her. I would've been fine regardless of who was there, but she loves to throw parties and I feel like she thinks this was all failure when it was completely out of her control.

I love my mom for doing this for me and it sucks it didn't go as planned, but I would never want her to feel this way about a baby shower. I feel so bad. I feel the same way I did when all of DH's friends canceled on his 30th birthday and wish there was some way to make her feel better about it.


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Re: I feel so bad for my mom... (Long)

  • Oh gosh I was watching the Eagles game yesterday and saw all that snow! That stinks for your mom (and you! I'm sure you were looking forward to seeing everyone!) but it sounds like she did awesome and probably had lots of fun with the planning.

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  • We also watched the Eagles game and couldn't believe how much snow was falling. Crazy!

    Ugh, I'm sorry for your mom though. I love to plan a party and it is really disappointing when you put in so much effort and attention to detail and it goes that way. I'm sure she still enjoyed sharing it with those that were there!
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  • She really tried so hard to make it special. She had a banner with all of my bump pictures on it. I never made it passed the first two pictures. The first was of DH and me from our wedding, titled, "Where it all began - Sept. 12, 2009" and the second was me holding my nephew/godson in early April titled, "4 weeks pregnant - and had no idea."

    At that I lost it, told her how beautiful it was, and sobbed.

    She then gave me a clothing box with a card in it. It was a receipt from eBay saying she had spent $130 to purchase my favorite childhood book, "Scarlett Monster Lives Here," which is no longer in print, to read to LO. Again, tears.

    It was beautiful and I was so touched. I just want her to be happy. We could've spent the day just me and her and I would've loved it.
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  • oh no that is such a bummer!!  your mom is so incredibly sweet and i'm sure she knows how appreciative you were of all her hard work
  • Your mom sounds incredibly thoughtful. What a bummer! :(
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  • Aww that is so disappointing :-(  Your mom sounds so thoughtful!
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  • Your mom sounds absolutely wonderful! I'm so sorry our horrendous weather yesterday messed up all her hard work and beautiful plans. 

    She knows how much it all meant to you, though, and I'm sure that's what really mattered most to her.

    I was out driving in that mess. It took me over an hour for a drive that should've been like 20 minutes. 
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  • Oh I'm sorry she was disappointed. I'm sur she knows you appreciated everything and that's what's most important, but that still sucks. I'm sorry.

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  • I'm sorry that the weather ruined it for your mom, but she sounds so thoughtful and amazing! 

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  • Mother nature can be such a B! Your mom sounds so thoughtful. I'm sure she knows how appreciative you are. I wish the weather cooperated for you.


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  • Your mom is so awesome! I'm sorry things didn't work out, but it sounds like it was beautiful. 
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  • I'm so sorry! It sounds like she did an amazing job and it really sucks the weather got in the way like that!
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  • Ditto, your mom sounds very thoughtful and like she had a great time planning. Sorry it wasn't a good turn out ): my mom recently told me we wouldn't be able to have a baby shower since its falling right around Christmas and every one is too busy. She sounded so sad, she was so excited about having it, but i assured her it's alright. I know its a little different of a situation but i kind of feel bad for my mom too.

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  • That storm was crazy in Philly! I'm sorry your shower got ruined! I'm sure your mom knows you really appreciated it, she sounds like a doll!


    I know how it feels, my bridal shower was all sorts of messed up from flooding the week before it. 
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  • That really stinks! I'm so sorry the weather didn't cooperate!

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  • That is really unfortunate about the weather, but I'm sure she knows how appreciative you are and that's probably all that matters to her. Try to think of it from her perspective, if you threw this shower for your son/future DIL, would you be upset about all those people not showing, or would you just be happy knowing that your son/ future DIL appreciated everything and thought it was perfect? 

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  • sgautschi said:

    That is really unfortunate about the weather, but I'm sure she knows how appreciative you are and that's probably all that matters to her. Try to think of it from her perspective, if you threw this shower for your son/future DIL, would you be upset about all those people not showing, or would you just be happy knowing that your son/ future DIL appreciated everything and thought it was perfect? 

    That's a great way to look at it. Thank you girls :)

    She actually called the restaurant and they refunded her for 16 people. I feel relieved. I'm currently going through the baby clothes we received this time around right now.
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  • No problem. Also, I'm glad they refunded her! :)

    And what all did you get from the shower?

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  • I'm sorry it didn't work out as planned. :( 
  • sgautschi said:

    No problem. Also, I'm glad they refunded her! :)


    And what all did you get from the shower?
    We go some really cute clothes and books. My SIL went out and bought a ton of clothes. We also got the super play yard (it's basically a baby hate octagon lol). We also got more essentials like bottles, moisturizer, baby shampoo, binkies, etc.

    My mom also made 3 HUGE diaper cakes out of size 1 and 2 swaddlers. :)
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  • Awesome! Do you have everything you need now? Except the curtains and rug?

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  • We need to get artwork for the walls too, but I would say we have a good running start. I need to purchase my glider. My brother is giving us a monitor, which would be really the only other big ticket item we need.

    My nesting instinct needs to re-kick in so I start organizing and making room for baby's stuff. Lol.
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