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Do you give gifts to friends?

I'm talking about for the holidays.

A girlfriend asked me today for my address and said to expect a Christmas package. It got me thinking.

I NEVER buy gifts for friends. I mean, I do give good wedding/baby presents, but I don't send Christmas/birthday/etc packages. Cards, sure. Gifts, nope.

Do you?
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Re: Do you give gifts to friends?

  • I'm the same as you. No gifts for Christmas or birthdays. I do give gifts for weddings and showers.
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  • Xan921Xan921 member
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    edited December 2013
    I usually do not do Christmas gifts for friends but I do give small birthday gifts to my two best friends or take them out for dinner and drinks.
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    TTC since March 2012 w/irregular and anovulatory cycles.  
    Moved to an RE October 2013  HSG- All clear , S/A- Normal , Bloodwork -Normal
    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
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  • I don't send my friends gifts, but sometimes I send gifts for friends' kids.

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    "You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss

    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • We do an alcohol exchange with our friends...secret santa style. It's a lot of fun and we all get to try new beverages. All of our friends are local though, we don't do anything for out of town friends. We also do birthday gifts with our friends, usually in the $10-$20 range, we've got a really close group from college that we do pretty much everything with. 

    TTC #1 Since October 2012
    DX PCOS May 2013
    Clomid 50-150mg- No Response
    Moved to RE October 2013
    Nov. 2013: IUI #1 Letrozole + Ovidrel = BFN
    Dec. 2013: IUI #2 Letrozole + Ovidrel= BFP on 1/8/2014 !! EDD 9/22/2014
    Beta #1 (12 dpo): HCG 27, Progesterone 15 (starting on supplements)
    Beta #2 (15 dpo): HCG 297, Progesterone 29
    Beta #3 (17 dpo): HCG 667, Progesterone 34
    1st Ultrasound 1/28 (6 weeks + 1) Baby measuring exactly as it should, HB 118!
    2nd Ultrasound 2/5 Baby measuring 7w4d, HB 133. Everything looks perfect!




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  • No, we just do a dinner together. It's much easier on all of us.
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  • I exchange with my BFF. We've known each other since we were 3 and always have, so I'm not about to break the tradition now. I don't with anyone else though.

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    off bcp 11/11
    a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
    injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
    Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
    one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
    EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
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  • Not always.  I don't go out looking for gifts but if I'm out shopping and see something that screams their name, I'll buy it for them.  We don't live near each other though, so it's generally something that can be mailed.





    dx:  Unexplained IF (mild MFI)

     TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN

    IVF #1 (May 2013):  Antagonist Protocol: 
    24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
    IVF #2 (August 2013):  Lupron Stop Protocol: 
    28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
    EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
    FET #1 (April 2014):  transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP

    C.J. born 01/09/15

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  • Only with a few. The few we exchange Christmas gifts with, we also exchange birthday gifts.
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    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
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  • I don't. I love them and they know it.  I send cards to friends and only buy gifts for immediate family.
  • I really don't generally buy gifts for friends. In the past, if I knew they were getting me something I would try to get them a gift card or something. But most of my friends aren't really giving gifts now either.

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    EDD: June 25, 2014
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  • Not really. We all know we're important to each other, and I've sent Christmas cards in the past (I totally failed at sending cards at all last year), but we all struggled after college, and sometimes still do, and I've got so many people to buy for already, that we just don't even worry about it. 
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    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
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  • No presents to friends here either.

    Last year was an exception to the rule.  One of my really close friends was pregnant, and I bought her an ornament.

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • I don't ever buy gifts for friends for Holidays or Birthdays really. Not unless it is like a big party to celebrate their 30th or something along those lines.

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    DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
    ~Started acupuncture in  May 2014~

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  • We have two other couples that we get together with on a monthly basis. We exchange gifts with them but the gifts are always game/food themed.

    I exchange with Aimothy & Panderp
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  • ecinerebecinereb member
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    edited December 2013
    We host a Christmas party and that's our gift to our friends. I usually get something small for a couple close friends though.
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    TTC since August 2011
    Cycle 8,9,10 - 50mg Clomid - BFN
    Cycle 11, 100 mg Clomid & IUI#1- BFP 2/23/13 - m/c 4/2/13 @ 9w2d
    Cycle 13, 100 mg Clomid & IUI#2 - BFP 6/27/13 - CP
    Met with an awesome new RE in September 2013 new plan: 5mg Femera & IUI #3
    Surprise Natural BFP 9/9/13 - Welcomed our baby boy 5/25/14

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  • We never did until last year.  I found out two other couples were getting gifts for us, so we got them something too.  We are doing it again this year.  They are smaller gifts though, so it's not that bad.
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  • Not really. If I do anything, It'd be something homemade. I have no plans to do gifts for friends this year though.

    In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!


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  • On very rare occasions I have but it's not the norm.  Like one year a friend got me a great job so I got her a "thank you/Christmas" gift.  Other than exceptions like that the answer is no.

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  • I buy gifts for two of my friends. They've been very supportive over the past year, so I bought them necklaces off etsy. We usually do small joke gifts. I also do SS at work.
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
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  • I do occasionally, but not as a rule. If I see something small that I think they'd really like during the year, I will get it for them and save it until Christmas or their birthday.

     ~ S & L 8-25-12  ~
  • We also have a big cocktail party as our "gift" to friends. Otherwise we just buy cards.

    As far as birthdays go, I get together with a group of girlfriends for dinners to celebrate birthdays.
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    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
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  • brij2006 said:

    No presents to friends here either.

    Last year was an exception to the rule.  One of my really close friends was pregnant, and I bought her an ornament.


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            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • I do for a couple friends and/or their kids, but not for many and not much $ for the ones I do get gifts for.
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