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Duped into marriage?
Ok, I am just not sure how to address this. My DH and I have been married for a few months now, but we've been together almost 4 years. I am 28 and he is 32. When we first got together neither of us wanted another child. I have a son (now 7) from my previous marriage and DH is fabulous with him. Eventually I decided that I would like to have a baby with him. He adamantly said no and that he does not ever want to have a baby. Before we got married I had a sit down with him and told him I did not know if we should go through with it. I told him that I do not think I can be ok not having a baby and that I will eventually grow to resent him for it. I also understand (and still do) that I don't want him to do it if he doesn't want to. I don't want to force him into anything. He said that if the issue is that important to me then he is open to it and we'll discuss it more in depth after the wedding. I asked him, you're sure? We can? He said, yeah, I guess. So all is settled right? No. As soon as we're married he started back to saying no and then acting like I'm crazy for saying he said it was ok. So now I'm kind of feeling like I was duped into marrying him. He's a great guy in all other respects and I love him. Great with my son too, but I can't help but feel betrayed and confused. Am I crazy for this?
Re: Duped into marriage?
This guy seems to really not want kids. Even if he "gave in" and had one - he is going to resent you for it. And frankly a kid deserves a dad who wants to be a dad.
So I think you need to decide what you want to do. I don't think he is going to change.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
dx: Unexplained IF (mild MFI)
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017
Clarification: Everyone seemed to misunderstand my original post. He said he was open to having a baby. I asked him if he was sure. He said yes. We started thinking up names and even told some family members together. This was why I said I felt duped.
Anyway, now that we've talked I think we've at least got a starting point