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Let's get a little personal...
Since we touched on this subject the other day, I was just wondering...what's everybody using for birth control these days? We are using condoms, but I'm not crazy about it. I am debating on going back on the pill but I would really rather not. And as we discussed the other day, dh runs screaming every time I bring up the "big v". We are at the stage of, nobody wants to be the one to say we are done having kids. But neither one of us wants to be the one to say we want another baby. Abstinence might have to be the next option.
Re: Let's get a little personal...
So here's the thing....I know we're done having kids. Brian knows we're done, we are in total agreement over this. And yet, as much as I am pushing for a vasectomy for him, the decision to actually do it just seems so....final. it almost makes me sad....yet I don't want more kids...does that make me crazy??
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
Now I'm on Mirena. I've gained weight since being on it, but I can't say that it is a result of the Mirena--it's more than likely due to the fact that I eat my feelings--which over the past few months have been non-stop stress at work.
I like Mirena. BCPs gave me crazy mood swings--crazier than normal PMS moodiness (which was nearly intolerable for my poor family). With Mirena I seem to have mellowed.
DH said he'd get a V...but we're not 100% sure we're done. Every now and then we'll discuss it--but we're not ready to jump in.
Honestly, there isn't a lot if couple time happening, but we plan to make a better effort in the new year. Somehow.
I think I would be annoyed if I was taking a pill daily without a weekly reason that I should be taking it. :-)
We are also not considering surgery for either of us. We're done, but life is so fluid that it feels wrong to remove the option. It is hard to imagine a situation where either of us would want another child. But life is too full of change to rule it out.
Right now we are TTC, so we are using nothing. I don't ovulate regularly (if at all) on my own, so once we had Mason, we just took our chances because we knew we wanted more kids and were okay if it happened when we weren't really planning it to. (Although to be honest, there was a lot of abstinence going on after Mason was born, lol!)
After Garrett, we were trying to prevent for a while, so we used condoms (even though I don't really O, I wasn't looking for an oops! at that time). It wasn't ideal, but because of my fertility challenges and the fact that I knew we would TTC again in the near future, I did not want to go back on the pill.
Once we have #3, we are done fo sho, so I will probably get my tubes tied and DH will definitely be getting the big V. Even though I needed fertility meds to help me get pregnant, I am not even taking the smallest chance with that. Knowing my luck, I'll be an ovulating fool at 50 years old and end up pregnant with triplets, so I will be taking every precaution necessary.
Sex? What's that?
Tubes tied here
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
Abstinence here. Not by choice, mind you.. well, I guess, some of it is!
DH is not impressed. But, we are done done done. I'm so tired. LOL
My three sons!
DH had a vasectomy in October. I wasn't sure I was done (despite the fact that we said we were and got rid of all of the baby stuff when we moved), but he was sure and obviously I'm not going to try to coerce him into having a third child if he doesn't want one. It was sad for me -- particularly when I had to go in the same entrance to the hospital to pick him up that I used for bi-weekly ultrasounds for DS. But he had no issues at all with it!
Condoms are here if we need them... twice in 5 months since Ian... I have never taken Birth Control. I am pretty regular so we have counted/avoided/used condoms always.
Worked pretty well since we had 2 kids 5 years apart in 7 1/2 years of marriage and both of them came pretty quick when we decided to "try". BUT I am not thinking I want anymore and I don't want to "play that game" forever.
My mom suggested my tubes tied with Ian because I was having a c section, but I couldn't do that... I was not willing to say I was done that soon. What If, God Forbid, something happen? I couldn't try again
. We have talked about lightly Dh going in for a V. He isn't thrilled, but says he doesn't need any more kids also. My cousins DH did it and talked to him about it. Said it wasn't too bad. We just haven't officially made the call.
Married, September 23, 2006