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Talked to DH about MIL.... *UPDATED*
After my
lovely co-worker basically called me fat yesterday, I had a bit of a
breakdown after I got home from work. I talked with DH about MIL. I
was a crying mess while doing it. He was ticked about what his mom
said. I told him I didn't want him to call her or make a big deal out
of it because I didn't want things to be weird. I told him I'd rather
he just listen for it on Christmas Eve and say something then. His
response? "No. It's completely inappropriate for her to say something
like that to you. You're my wife. You come first. I will be
calling her tonight to say something because that's not right. And for
someone that constantly comments on her own weight (MIL is overweight),
she should absolutely know better. That's not something she'd say to
her own daughters, why should it be OK for her to say it to you?"
So he went out to the car and called her while I finished up dinner. He was back in about 5-ish minutes. He said she seriously had no idea I would take her seriously and if she had, she'd never have said it. He said he could tell she was really upset about it all and made up an excuse to get off the phone. So now he feels bad because he feels like he could have gone about it in a better way. Apparently he was pretty stern with her. And he also feels bad because he's worried he potentially messed up mine and MIL's relationship by being so hard about it. I told him that's why I didn't want him to call her, but he just kept saying, "No, something needed to be said." So he's worried he messed up mine and MIL's relationship, but meanwhile, both MIL and I said that's the last thing we'd want.
He wouldn't be my DH if he was happy about calling his mom on something. I love that he stood up for me, and I also love that he feels bad about hurting his mom's feelings. He's so amazingly compassionate. I don't know why I waited a few days to tell him about it.
**UPDATE**
MIL emailed me. I can't blame her at all for going that route seeing as I texted her back instead of calling. I'd have totally started crying had I actually talked with her. Her email said...
"Dear JennaHack,
Never in a million years would I purposely say or do anything to hurt you, and I'm so sorry that my inconsiderate comment upset you. I certainly did not mean it and was just being silly, as I think you look adorable. I never imagined being taken seriously or that I hurt your feelings, and again, I'm so very sorry!
I love you!
Mom"
I think we're good now.
So he went out to the car and called her while I finished up dinner. He was back in about 5-ish minutes. He said she seriously had no idea I would take her seriously and if she had, she'd never have said it. He said he could tell she was really upset about it all and made up an excuse to get off the phone. So now he feels bad because he feels like he could have gone about it in a better way. Apparently he was pretty stern with her. And he also feels bad because he's worried he potentially messed up mine and MIL's relationship by being so hard about it. I told him that's why I didn't want him to call her, but he just kept saying, "No, something needed to be said." So he's worried he messed up mine and MIL's relationship, but meanwhile, both MIL and I said that's the last thing we'd want.
He wouldn't be my DH if he was happy about calling his mom on something. I love that he stood up for me, and I also love that he feels bad about hurting his mom's feelings. He's so amazingly compassionate. I don't know why I waited a few days to tell him about it.
**UPDATE**
MIL emailed me. I can't blame her at all for going that route seeing as I texted her back instead of calling. I'd have totally started crying had I actually talked with her. Her email said...
"Dear JennaHack,
Never in a million years would I purposely say or do anything to hurt you, and I'm so sorry that my inconsiderate comment upset you. I certainly did not mean it and was just being silly, as I think you look adorable. I never imagined being taken seriously or that I hurt your feelings, and again, I'm so very sorry!
I love you!
Mom"
I think we're good now.
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* After 22 months and 2 failed IUIs, we finally got our BFP *
DS delivered naturally at 41w6d on 4/18/14
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* After 22 months and 2 failed IUIs, we finally got our BFP *
DS delivered naturally at 41w6d on 4/18/14
* TTC #2 March 2015 *
Re: Talked to DH about MIL.... *UPDATED*
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
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Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP! Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64 Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
Good job DH!
Our Little Raspberry-Born 3/27/12
We Said I Do 09/06/09
so i'm a talker. so if this happened with my MIL and I, I would probably let her say she's sorry and then talk non stop myself in order to ease the whole situation by saying, I know you didn't mean anything by it and H totally overreacted but I thought it was sweet he wanted to stick up for me and baby. and then just drop the whole thing.
this will all blow over quickly i'm sure. esp. since you and MIL had such a good relationship before
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RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
Our Little Raspberry-Born 3/27/12
We Said I Do 09/06/09