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disciplining a toddler
How do (did) you discipline your 2.5 year old? I know he's still learning but there are times he just won't listen. "Don't touch that." :::Touches anyway::: "We don't throw food on the floor." ::::Toss:::: "Don't go downstairs yet." ::::sliding down on bum::::: Sometimes I know he's tired and that causes the not listening, but I want him to understand consequences and know how to follow rules. (No child of mine is going to claim "affluenza" and that he didn't know actions had consequences.)
So, what did you do? How did you handle time outs? Did he/she have to say "sorry" or show understanding of what they had done? I'm lucky I have a pretty happy friendly compliant boy on my hand and I want to foster that. I know he's a toddler and I don't expect miracles, but I also want to make sure when someone tells him to do/not do something, they mean it.
So, there's my post for the day. :-)
So, what did you do? How did you handle time outs? Did he/she have to say "sorry" or show understanding of what they had done? I'm lucky I have a pretty happy friendly compliant boy on my hand and I want to foster that. I know he's a toddler and I don't expect miracles, but I also want to make sure when someone tells him to do/not do something, they mean it.
So, there's my post for the day. :-)
Re: disciplining a toddler
We do time outs. I usually do a warning before a time out. Unless it's hitting, then it's straight to time out. 1 minute per age. After time out, we hug and review what happened, they apologize to the person involved. With the food throwing thing, I would just say, "it looks like you are done eating." and take the plate.
:-w
We've started time outs recently for the more serious offenses (we don't do it for general non-listening, but more for hitting, etc) and it's going about as well as it can go with a 2 year old. It's really more like him sliding around on a bottom stair trying to run away, but we'll stick with it.
I'm not sure how your little guy is, but Liam is pretty easily distracted. So if he's about to get into something he shouldn't be or getting ready to throw a fit over not getting his own way, it's normally pretty easy to redirect his attention elsewhere. So for instance, if he starts to go down the stairs (a common problem we have in our house too), I say, "Oh Liam! could you help mommy with something up here? I sure could use your help!" and that works sometimes.
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Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
ugh - this age can really stinks in my opinion, for this very reason! Our 2.5 yr old son is in the same boat as your toddler, and like Amanda said, totally age appropriate normal and all about testing limits.
We use time outs, 1 minute per age, for serious offenses like hitting & kicking & throwing things (he chucked a stone coaster at his sister's head last week). Otherwise we issue warnings first, and have found that telling him he was going to have a "time out" didn't matter, but saying he was going to be "in trouble" made him at least take notice.
When he does something to his sister, espeically physical, we do make him say he is sorry. As for having an understanding of what he's done, um, yeah, he isn't going to get it at that age, other than just knowing he isn't supposed to do that. But then next time, it's back to testing limits, so who knows. I think you have to feel around and see what works best for you and then just stick with it - consistency is key, and immediate follow through so they know you are serious! Good luck!
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
1 – Discipline means “to teach”. So whatever consequence you use it should (ideally) be about teaching, it should be something you’ll follow through on and it should be about 80-90% consistent. IMO, 100% consistency is impossible.
2 – Toddlers test limits because knowing that you are setting boundaries gives them comfort. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but setting limits is the best thing that you can do for their emotional development. Toddlers raised with structure and limits will be better behaved in the long run.
3 – We used time outs for emotional calming and to get away from the situation that was causing the issue. And we follow time outs with talking about what happened and hugs.
4 – Discipline is a balancing act between improving short term conditions (removing a screaming kid from a store/restaurant) and the long term goals of teaching the behavior that you expect. Sometimes it is worth dealing with a major tantrum to teach an important lesson, and other times it is better to state the limit and then distract the kid. Pick your battles.
5 – If you care enough about this to be working at how to best discipline your toddler, you’re going to be fine!
We do time outs for hitting, etc, and the blatant not listening. Like I've told him several times to not do something and he looked at me and did it anyway. (He loves to hit the power button on my computer. So annoying.) The others we re-direct and let him know that it makes us upset when he does something we ask him not for.
Ahh...the care and keeping of little people can be so hard.
And, Amy, I love your reminder that disciple=disciple=teach. I used to know the root words for those in Greek. They are gone, now, but they were there once. 8-}
We do time outs for hitting, etc, and the blatant not listening. Like I've told him several times to not do something and he looked at me and did it anyway. (He loves to hit the power button on my computer. So annoying.) The others we re-direct and let him know that it makes us upset when he does something we ask him not for.
Ahh...the care and keeping of little people can be so hard.
And, Amy, I love your reminder that disciple=disciple=teach. I used to know the root words for those in Greek. They are gone, now, but they were there once. 8-}