WWGPD? (NGPR)

PandPMeant2B · December 2013

DH and I have a wedding to go to next month in NJ. The ceremony starts at 2:30 PM, but the reception doesn't start until 6:30 and it's black tie. I figure by the time we leave the ceremony it will be about 4 PM (I'm estimating an hour ceremony and at least a half hour for the receiving line; it's a BIG wedding). Luckily, my parents live about 30 minutes from the church and only 15 minutes from the reception hall. I'm trying to decide if I should wear something simple (but not casual) to the ceremony and then use the hour (more or less) gap to change into my "fancy clothes" and fix up my hair and make-up or just get ready before the ceremony and be dressed in black tie attire all day.

So, what would GP do???

LuckyAngel07 · December 2013

I'd actually probably drive down to your parents house in comfy clothes and get changed there before the ceremony (it's a long drive to be sitting in formal attire!). That way, you're dressed for the ceremony without being all rumpled.

If you want to, you could always go back to hang out at your parents' house between ceremony and reception, and put your comfy clothes back on for that down time.

ILoveRedVino · December 2013

If it's a black tie reception, I would assume the ceremony is formal too. I would wear the fancy clothes to both.

Sewilson33 · December 2013

I would wear something simple to the ceremony, drive to your parents, get changed into black tie clothes and then go to the reception.
My cousin got married 90 minutes from where I live and I wore my formal attire to the church and I was the ONLY one in my formal attire at the church. Including everyone in my family. It was uncomfortable and annoying to not be able to slouch on the couch for the 2 hour break in between ceremony and reception.

islandmonkey8 · December 2013

I would just wear one thing. I'm also lazy and hate getting dressed and undressed multiple times, unless it's to my pjs.

PandPMeant2B · December 2013

LuckyAngel07 said:

I'd actually probably drive down to your parents house in comfy clothes and get changed there before the ceremony (it's a long drive to be sitting in formal attire!). That way, you're dressed for the ceremony without being all rumpled.

If you want to, you could always go back to hang out at your parents' house between ceremony and reception, and put your comfy clothes back on for that down time.

We'll most likely stay at my parents the night before, so we'll be going to the ceremony from there. The reception is in the opposite direction, so we have to pass my parents house to go to the reception anyway. If we don't plan to change, we'll probably stop there just to relax and kill time. If we do, obviously we have to go there anyway.

I know what we do will end up being the opposite of what everyone else does lol. If we plan to change, I bet a lot of people will be dressed up and have plans to go to a bar or something to hang out before the reception. If we go dressed up, I'm sure a lot of people will be planning to go back home/to the hotel to change. Murphy's law!

nightmare_of_beauty · December 2013

islandmonkey8 said:

I would just wear one thing. I'm also lazy and hate getting dressed and undressed multiple times, unless it's to my pjs.

This is so me.

LuckyAngel07 · December 2013

Is there anyone else going to the wedding that you know and can ask what they plan to do?

It's so annoying when there's a ton of time between the ceremony and reception.

lfk2013 · December 2013

Is it a long ceremony? That's a long time between the ceremony and reception...bad planning on their part (IMO). I'd be comfortable yet nice for the ceremony and change into dressy stuff (depending on how long the ceremony actually is)

PandPMeant2B · December 2013

@LuckyAngel07, there's one other girl I know and she's ALWAYS late and takes forever to get ready, so I'm sure she'll be wearing one thing to both. I texted her anyway to make sure and ask if she knows what anyone else is doing.

@lfy2013, I don't know for sure how long the ceremony will be, but I guessed an hour, assuming they do a full mass.

I think it's really annoying, no to mention poor etiquette, to have that much of a gap, but that's just my opinion.

cloudymeatballs · December 2013

Ya I would wear to both the same thing. Just go relax a little at your parents before. Maybe go get a drink before . I hate when there are these huge gaps in between. We had one of these before. Ceremony was at 12!!! Noon and it was an hour ceremony. But the reception didn't start until 430. Oh we had a long time in between. Ended up just getting a few drinks before to kill time. People don't get it. Good luck and let us know what you do.

cloudymeatballs · December 2013

These dupes wont stop.

Xan921 · December 2013

I would just wear the same thing. I would be too lazy to change in between. And like others said, I'm sure the ceremony is black tie too.

stephkf · December 2013

I would just wear one outfit to both. I'm like everyone else and am too lazy to want to change. Plus, trying to plan two outfits for one event would drive me nuts. If you wanted two different looks, maybe do more formal makeup and/or hair for the reception.

Edited for spelling

DangerMuffin23 · December 2013

Better to be overdressed than underdressed. So personally I'd wear my nice dress to the ceremony as well, but still stop off at the rents house and prob wear something comfy for an hour so your dress doesn't get too wrinkled.

FutureMrsWright2012 · December 2013

I agree with @LuckyAngel07 100%

ljraff29 · December 2013

For my wedding we had a long gap, and drive, between the ceremony and the reception. A lot of people wore something nice, but less fancy to the church and then changed before the reception into their fancy clothes. It's really personal preference though.

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