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Vent (Loss Mentioned)
Thinking about yesterday, I also want to vent about this. In case you didn't read FFFC, FIL and his girlfriend stopped by yesterday.
I have met girlfriend (let's call her D) twice before her coming over yesterday. She came to our wedding and SIL's wedding. I have barely spoken more than "Hi how are you?" to her before yesterday. I really don't like her which is a long story, but I will say it's never been something she has personally done to me.
She asked for a tour of our house because her and FIL hadn't seen it yet. Not true, FIL has, but didn't say anything. After the tour we sat in the living room while FIL tried calling SIL to go see her. While he's on the phone D looks at me and says "So, how are you feeling?"
I had a feeling I knew what she meant, but played it off like I didn't and said I'm feeling fine, how about you? And she started asking about my m/c. What happened? How far along were? What went wrong?
What...went...wrong... EXACT words from her mouth.
I was completely thrown off by the fact that I have barely ever spoken to D, why would I feel the urge to talk to her about this? When I explained it was most likely a chromosome issue because of how far along the baby did grow, she looked at me like she didn't believe me! So my irrational brain now feels that she is implying that I did something wrong.
Thankfully by then FIL has off the phone with SIL whom was an hour away from and they decided they would not wait to see (oh yeah I didn't like that either) and decided to head out of town before it got dark (it was 1pm).
I just do not understand where D gets off asking so many details about such a personal and hurtful thing. Maybe she worded herself incorrectly, but why would anyone ask what went wrong. You say what happened, do they have an explanation, not what went wrong. Thankfully we don't see them much so I will hopefully not have to deal with this situation again. I will not forget this though.
Thank you for reading this if you did. Just need to get my thoughts out.
DX: 6/2012 PCOS TTC: 6/2013 BFP: 9/6/2013 Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
Re: Vent (Loss Mentioned)
BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
The Rowdy Roberts
TTC#2 4/14
A Parachute in an Oak Tree: A World of Love
I'm so sorry she said all of that to you.
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* After 22 months and 2 failed IUIs, we finally got our BFP *
DS delivered naturally at 41w6d on 4/18/14
I'm sorry she asked you it in that way. Especially since it sounds like you aren't that close with her to have this type of conversation with her.
As you know, I've had quite a few run-ins with stupid questions and statements from people about our loss. What I've come to realize is that people seriously don't know what to say, and they don't know how far to take the conversation. They want to know, and they're curious about details (some are) but most have no clue as to how to ask about it in an appropriate way.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
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Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP! Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64 Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
That's awful! FX you don't have to deal with her again for a really long time.
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DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
Sometimes it can be hard to stand up for yourself in the moment especially when so many emotions are involved so don't feel bad about that. I hope she never brings it up again but at least if she does I hope you have some choice words set aside for her.
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We Said I Do 09/06/09