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FHA Loan Question - Sorry to be Nosy!!!

Hey everyone, my boyfriend and I are getting engaged soon and we're talking about wanting to be able to move out of this apartment (or do month-to-month for awhile, whatever) when this lease ends next December 31, 2014.  We will be able to have maybe around $10,000 by this time next year (assuming no help from anyone else, which is what I will assume), so I am definitely thinking we will only be able to get an FHA (3.5% down) loan unless we wait many many more years.

My boyfriend seems to be pretty gun-shy from the whole housing crash and is convinced we can't afford much or won't get approved for much. We pay $1300 a month in rent right now and are fairly comfortable...$135,000 household income. I just want us to look next year in the $200,000-300,000 range (ideally find something on the lower end, though, maybe even with a 15 year mortgage if it was doable), and he keeps saying that is way beyond what we would ever be able to get as a first house.  We're in our 30's and he works from home, and we'd like to have kids fairly soon, so for me I'd rather get a decent sized house we can stay in for quite awhile now, versus like what a lot of our friends did marrying young ten years ago, starting with a small house for a couple years then upgrading.  Of course, if that IS too much for me to expect I will do whatever, but I think he is underestimating what I think is a decent household income to start mid-sized.

With that said, sorry to be nosy and divulge so much info, but has anyone applied for and gotten an FHA loan?  What was your general household income, debts, rate, and amount you got approved for and/or amount you paid for the house?  I can do the calculators online until I am blue in the face but I really don't feel like they reflect reality. Any information you have about your situation in general numbers would help.  Thanks!! :)

Re: FHA Loan Question - Sorry to be Nosy!!!

  • Where do you live? What are you looking for? We got a great house in a great neighborhood for way less than what you're projecting. Our payment is way less than your rent too, so I'm guessing you're either in a high cost of living area, or looking for way more than we were. I think you can get up to the minute FHA rates online.
  • Here's a suggestion I think will help you out.  Call a few banks and ask them for a pre-qualification based on a Debt-to-Income ratio (they shouldn't run a credit check to do this).  That will give you an idea of how much they'll let you borrow and what your payments would be.
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  • Ok, thank you, I thought that they ran credit checks to do that and I have heard credit checks are bad for credit. Thanks!
  • With your income, I would hope you could save more than 10K.

    You need your down payment, inspection, closing costs, moving costs (incude a few days of eating out until the kitchen is ready & stocked, repair/renovation, start-up utility deposits, decorating, additional furniture/appliances, yard items, tools/ladders etc.

    Rule of thumb is housing should be no more than 25-28% of your TAKEHOME pay, (30-35) in a HCOL area.  More than that can quickly make you house poor. That includes:  mortgage interest & principal, taxes, insurance, PMI if needed, utilities, HOA if applicable, Add more for on going maintenance.

    OK - now with your monthly figure in mind - use a reverse mortgage calulator (or a lender can give you the amount) to see what that translates to house price. Key point is that YOU determine how much you want to spend on housing first - then with that set the loan amount to accomplish that.  Lenders still will tell you that you can afford much more than is reasonably comfortable for most people --- what got people into trouble recently.  It is not just how much income you have, but also your other financial obligations and the lifestyle you want to live.  (cars, student loans, credit cards, vacations?)  crunch the numbers.
    If you do not currently have a budget - start tracking your money - what comes in and what goes out ---to the dollar --

    Meanwhile continue to save, and pay off any credit cards you have prior to a home purchase.

    Final point - I would not buy a house until AFTER you are married.  Everyone thinks that the relationship will evolve into the planned marriage, however, not all make it that far (and who think it will happen to them?). You have  more legal protections when you are married.
  • With your income, I would hope you could save more than 10K.

    You need your down payment, inspection, closing costs, moving costs (incude a few days of eating out until the kitchen is ready & stocked, repair/renovation, start-up utility deposits, decorating, additional furniture/appliances, yard items, tools/ladders etc.

    Rule of thumb is housing should be no more than 25-28% of your TAKEHOME pay, (30-35) in a HCOL area.  More than that can quickly make you house poor. That includes:  mortgage interest & principal, taxes, insurance, PMI if needed, utilities, HOA if applicable, Add more for on going maintenance.

    OK - now with your monthly figure in mind - use a reverse mortgage calulator (or a lender can give you the amount) to see what that translates to house price. Key point is that YOU determine how much you want to spend on housing first - then with that set the loan amount to accomplish that.  Lenders still will tell you that you can afford much more than is reasonably comfortable for most people --- what got people into trouble recently.  It is not just how much income you have, but also your other financial obligations and the lifestyle you want to live.  (cars, student loans, credit cards, vacations?)  crunch the numbers.
    If you do not currently have a budget - start tracking your money - what comes in and what goes out ---to the dollar --

    Meanwhile continue to save, and pay off any credit cards you have prior to a home purchase.

    Final point - I would not buy a house until AFTER you are married.  Everyone thinks that the relationship will evolve into the planned marriage, however, not all make it that far (and who think it will happen to them?). You have  more legal protections when you are married.
  • Sorry, cannot save more than $10K. I have student loans.  That is what we will have.  I understand I should be married, thanks.  Not that that part is relevant to what I am asking, but that is what we plan to do. 
  • I have stayed away from online mortgage calculators for that reason.  They tell you that you can afford a home mortgage amount that is far, far beyond what I would think is remotely reasonable, even when I try to make is really conservative by putting like, $1,000-2,000 in the "other debts" column.  It's not realistic at all. 
  • This doesn't answer your question in the slightest, but I was convinced we couldn't get approved, either. Basically the opposite of your situation--he thought we could, I thought we couldn't--but we did. And with less down, too, though we went VA so that's a different animal. Anyway, my point being: you never know until you try. It's good that you have a max price in mind, because the bank will likely approve you for more than you are comfortable with.

    I doubt you'll find any lender who will pre-qual you on any loan based on DTI alone, let alone without running a credit check--and especially not a mortgage. I used to do consumer lending and that is unheard of.

    I do know with FHA loans you're now required to pay PMI for the life of the loan, so you'd need to plan to potentially refi once you get down under 20%. Save what you can and when you feel like you're ready to buy, submit an application and see what happens (and get ready for a mountain of paperwork). You don't want to do it before you're ready because you're right, too many credit checks are not a good thing. One or two shouldn't hurt. Good luck!
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  • This doesn't answer your question in the slightest, but I was convinced we couldn't get approved, either. Basically the opposite of your situation--he thought we could, I thought we couldn't--but we did. And with less down, too, though we went VA so that's a different animal. Anyway, my point being: you never know until you try. It's good that you have a max price in mind, because the bank will likely approve you for more than you are comfortable with.

    I doubt you'll find any lender who will pre-qual you on any loan based on DTI alone, let alone without running a credit check--and especially not a mortgage. I used to do consumer lending and that is unheard of.

    I do know with FHA loans you're now required to pay PMI for the life of the loan, so you'd need to plan to potentially refi once you get down under 20%. Save what you can and when you feel like you're ready to buy, submit an application and see what happens (and get ready for a mountain of paperwork). You don't want to do it before you're ready because you're right, too many credit checks are not a good thing. One or two shouldn't hurt. Good luck!
    Stuck in the box...anyhow...we went FHA for this house and the PMI drops off after 5 years no matter what. No refi neded. My last house was conventional and I would have needed a refi to get rid of it. Not sue if FHA has changed, or if it was how our loan was written, or what. Just an FYI on our situation. 
  • Ah, I guess we were lucky. We have an amazing rate and would not want to refinance...probably ever.
  • Many banks will not give you a true pre-qualification without running your credit, but it shouldn't affect your score that much unless you go to multiple banks. You can get a 5% down conventional loan, but you would still have to pay PMI. The difference is that it will fall off, generally at 78% LTV.
  • You have $135k income with the two of you. What if one loses a job, dies, cannot work, or stays at home with kids? Many people buy homes budgeted off of one income only to allow for these life events. While you have 2 incomes, you can save one and use the other for expenses.

    Budget your home price based on what you can afford, not what the bank/lender approves you for.

     

  • jtmh2012jtmh2012 mod
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    I doubt you'll find any lender who will pre-qual you on any loan based on DTI alone, let alone without running a credit check--and especially not a mortgage. I used to do consumer lending and that is unheard of.


    JPMorgan Chase and Navy Federal just to name two will give you a pre-qual based on a DTI.  However, it is purely an estimate and is *not* a pre-approval or any kind of guarantee.  It is, however, a good estimate to go house hunting with.  I generally stay below the amount they give me anyway.  To actually get a pre-approval, they will require a credit check.

    Keep in mind, we also have excellent credit and nothing weird in our financial history that causes a difference between the DTI estimate and the pre-approval.  Your mileage may vary....

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  • They did a credit check and gave us amount we qualified for, we looked for houses less than that though, I wanted to make sure if one of us dies/loses job - the other could pay house comfortably.

    We got FHA loan. We put down 3.5% down, 3.25% interest on 30 yr loan
  • Is your "can't save more than $10k" a general statement, or is that $10k amount totally seperate from the 10% of your income being put into retirement savings? I ask because that will affect your budget. If you truly can only save $10k total in the next year, then your total mortgage (principal, interest, property taxes, HOA fees, and mortgage insurance) should not exceed your current rent amount. Ideally the mortgage payment should be lower than what you are currently paying in rent to allow you to save appropriately for retirement and afford the inevitable maintenance required by a home.

    I also second the recommendation of a PP to think several years ahead. You want kids. Will one of you stop working to stay home with the kids? If so, you need to make sure you can afford to pay the mortgage, bills, retirement savings, and fun money on one salary. If not, look into the cost of childcare in your area. Where we live, daycare for a child under 2 is $1000 a month. That's a pretty big line item in a household budget and it should be anticipated when deciding how much house you can afford. Also, do not count on family for free daycare. Parents develop health problems, relationships have fallouts, things happen. If family does end up providing free childcare, that's awesome. But don't count on it when projecting your budget.

  • Ours is FHA from 3.5 years ago. It's only in my name with $40,000 salary at the time and excellent credit score. I qualified for $200,000! DH's credit wasn't good enough to count at the time. Our house came to 30% of our takehome pay for 30 year mortgage. Over the past 3.5 years, our income has increased so it's 20% of our takehome.
  • Oh and 4.5% interest fixed 30 year. Which was amazing 3.5 years ago.
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