People with new babies should have their FB accounts frozen

nfp147 · December 2013

We have friends who had a baby yesterday afternoon. I think the poor thing is going to starve because her parents are too busy posting pictures.

I get it, you're excited. But, please, give the rest of us a break from your pictures.

I told DH I'm going to start putting up a picture every time one of our pets moves over the next 24 hours.

mrsvedo · January 2014

Andplusalso if I see one more "I'm a parent so NYE means pajamas for me!!1!" post I might actually flip.

Plenty of parents go out on NYE and plenty of nonparents stay in their pajamas.

Parenthood does not automatically equate to being houseridden.

Xan921 · January 2014

Ugh I hate people like that so hard. I make myself feel better by thinking that if they are trying that hard to make sure everyone knows how great their life is then it's probably really not great or else they'd actually be living it rather than posting about it.

rccola1981 · January 2014

I have a few friends who are new parents and not obnoxious, but then we have others who aren't such new parents who still annoy us with the constant pictures of excuses.

cinderin · January 2014

I made a specific goal to only post something once a week about my kiddo on FB because people can be so annoying. There were other rules too... no posting anything at all until we were home from the hospital.

FB is kind of a big pet peeve of mine. And it makes me sad. MIL is sooooo annoying on it. *Everything* must be captured with a photo and immediately posted on FB.

It has gotten to the point I am absolutely convinced some people are just living their lives to post things on FB!

Life should be about living in the moment and creating memories with the loved ones present. Some moments should just be for you or you and DH or you and immediate family...

carcrashheart · January 2014

By April of 2013 I had posted 400+ pictures of LO. I'm not sorry about that. It took years and pain before finally having him. I will post as many pictures as I want. There is a hide button if you would like to use it. I hit my limit of 1k pictures in my 2013 album in early December, which didn't include our trip to the beach. I spent 9 months not even making a pregnancy announcement because I know how much it hurts but I'm not going to censor myself forever. Use your hide button and move on. I know it's not hard to do because I hid handfuls of people once they became pregnant.

BruinsBabe33 · January 2014

No one will ever find your child as wonderful as you do. Period. It's a fact. I try to limit my posts. I think everything MT does is adorable and amazing, but no one else wants to see every picture I take of him. I think people forget that Facebook is a way to give quick updates on your life. Post a pic or two here and there, but no one wants to see every outfit change or read every update about your kid. I have tons of photos that my family or friends can view on a separate page dedicated to him and encourage people to post pictures of him there instead of on Facebook, they don't always do it, but I try. I also care very deeply for my friends and know they can be hurt by over sharing, so I try to avoid that. I have a son and people know that. Why do I need to post every funny face he makes? I take those pictures for myself not for social media.

lindsayandjamie · January 2014

I totally agree with Bruins.

LuckyAngel07 · January 2014

BBITBNE!

MH1006 · January 2014

It's always the people with the ugliest kids who post a million pictures and updates. I don't know whether to feel sorry for them for making ugly kids or sorry for me for having to see these hideous creatures every time I log on.

nightmare_of_beauty · January 2014

My SIL posted about "being a parent means pjs on NYE." My BIL posted that if he hadn't hard to work, they would have found a sitter and would have been drinking.

nfp147 · January 2014

LuckyAngel07 said:

BBITBNE!

? Edit: Nevermind! I got it!

blueeyedblossom · January 2014

nfp147 said:

LuckyAngel07 said:

BBITBNE!

?

BruinsBabe is the best nestie ever!

nfp147 · January 2014

carcrashheart said:

By April of 2013 I had posted 400+ pictures of LO. I'm not sorry about that. It took years and pain before finally having him. I will post as many pictures as I want. There is a hide button if you would like to use it. I hit my limit of 1k pictures in my 2013 album in early December, which didn't include our trip to the beach. I spent 9 months not even making a pregnancy announcement because I know how much it hurts but I'm not going to censor myself forever. Use your hide button and move on. I know it's not hard to do because I hid handfuls of people once they became pregnant.

amandaf6383 · January 2014

carcrashheart said:

By April of 2013 I had posted 400+ pictures of LO. I'm not sorry about that. It took years and pain before finally having him. I will post as many pictures as I want. There is a hide button if you would like to use it. I hit my limit of 1k pictures in my 2013 album in early December, which didn't include our trip to the beach. I spent 9 months not even making a pregnancy announcement because I know how much it hurts but I'm not going to censor myself forever. Use your hide button and move on. I know it's not hard to do because I hid handfuls of people once they became pregnant.

Flamingo86 · January 2014

I love you Bruins. Also I spent NYE in my PJs despite not having a kid.

R.Wilsonny · January 2014

carcrashheart said:
By April of 2013 I had posted 400+ pictures of LO. I'm not sorry about that. It took years and pain before finally having him. I will post as many pictures as I want. There is a hide button if you would like to use it. I hit my limit of 1k pictures in my 2013 album in early December, which didn't include our trip to the beach. I spent 9 months not even making a pregnancy announcement because I know how much it hurts but I'm not going to censor myself forever. Use your hide button and move on. I know it's not hard to do because I hid handfuls of people once they became pregnant.

I realize it's probably difficult to restrain yourself, especially since you've had a difficult time, and the excitement of being a new mom is overwhelming, but I also think it's a tad bit insensitive to come here and essentially give the big middle finger to people here when they vent about the whole fb thing.

Fb is cool to keep people updated about your life, but at the same time, it's serious overkill when you post a bazillion photos of your kid when chances are half the people on your friends list don't even give a shit. A few photos are fine, but really now....AW much? Yes, it's easy to hide and block people, but you have to wonder if maybe you are overdoing it if it gets to the point where people actually have to block your posts. Something to think about and also, you, as a parent, should seriously be thinking about whether or not it is even a good idea to put so many personal photos of your kid online like that.

MRads · January 2014

Flamingo86 said:
I love you Bruins. Also I spent NYE in my PJs despite not having a kid.

I'm not sure I've ever spent a NYE not in my pjs. But I can't get behind a holiday that the entire premise of is staying up late. I've always been super lame and happiest when I'm asleep no later than 10:30.

amandaf6383 · January 2014

Last night I was counting down to midnight so I could take off my bra and hop into bed!! lol

Phantom&Tessa · January 2014

for me, facebook is a way i can keep in contact with members of my family, such as my sister. So yes, i post photos to show what's going on, as i only see her maybe once or twice a year, and so she can show our parents. I post photos of things like changes in our house, and photos of our kitten (that is also so the breeder can see that she's doing fine). Someone else posts photos all the time of their baby. Fine. Not my thing currently though I know that may well change.

Facebook was invented for visually and textually keeping in contact with people. At the same time, i can understand what you mean. Personally, i practically turn green with envy, watching everyone else proceed with their lives, getting to reach the milestones that I'm not yet at, such as pregnancy, kids. All I can do is bite my tongue and wait until the day I can post photos of that kind of thing.

R.Wilsonny · January 2014

That's the thing though, there's nothing wrong with posting photos or things going on in your life, but some people go way overboard with that shit or will post highly personal things that really are not meant for something as public as fb.

I have a few friends that ever since they had kids, just get too carried away - not just with photos, but everything, and then they use an obnoxious amount of hash tags on top of it (unecessary and annoying). No one cares that your child took a shit #noonecares

Then there's people like my SIL that post photos and tag people that aren't even in it just for the attention. There's a word for that - it's called douche taggery.

I swear, if I ever get annoying like this on fb, someone please just come kick me.

ILoveRedVino · January 2014

Meh. I hide people who are annoying- with pics of their kids or anything else.

I think it is unrealistic to expect new moms (and dads) to not aw their babies. I'll absolutely post baby/kid pictures someday. I understand that 3T and loss are hard, but I wouldn't expect others to walk on eggshells on social media just because I might feel bad.

seahorse01 · January 2014

carcrashheart said:

By April of 2013 I had posted 400+ pictures of LO. I'm not sorry about that. It took years and pain before finally having him. I will post as many pictures as I want. There is a hide button if you would like to use it. I hit my limit of 1k pictures in my 2013 album in early December, which didn't include our trip to the beach. I spent 9 months not even making a pregnancy announcement because I know how much it hurts but I'm not going to censor myself forever. Use your hide button and move on. I know it's not hard to do because I hid handfuls of people once they became pregnant.

I am SUPER annoyed that my block function doesn't seem to work on you. You are insufferable.

lilliesandvino · January 2014

I'm thinking that it must be pretty bad bc @nfp147 doesn't complain about anything, ever. Seriously. These people must be taking the awing above the normal "showing off our new baby" excitement.

ILoveRedVino · January 2014

^ I thought that too. NFP seems to not be the angry/bitter/jealous type.

nfp147 · January 2014

Oh for heaven's sake.

I'm sorry this got out of hand. I assumed the "the poor thing is going to starve because her parents are taking pictures" part and the part about posting large numbers of pet pics were big enough signals that I was pissing around. It was mostly me eye-rolling at friends who need to put down the camera phone for a few minutes.

Of course people can put pics of their kids up, and of course I can block them if I feel the need to.

BruinsBabe33 · January 2014

What's the point of posting if everyone has you blocked, though?

nightmare_of_beauty · January 2014

My BFF makes jokes about everyone I have blocked from my new feed.

LittleLady77 · January 2014

ILoveRedVino said:

Meh. I hide people who are annoying- with pics of their kids or anything else. I think it is unrealistic to expect new moms (and dads) to not aw their babies. I'll absolutely post baby/kid pictures someday. I understand that 3T and loss are hard, but I wouldn't expect others to walk on eggshells on social media just because I might feel bad.

I agree with all this. Personally I get super annoyed when people post a million pictures/updates about ANY topic. I don't care about their life that much. I also understand people use Facebook for varying purposes and if it makes them feel good then go for it but i'll certainly block them or defriend them. I won't post tons of pictures of kids, in fact DH really doesn't want many on the web at all. That's how we choose to use Facebook and it works for us.

lifeguard · January 2014

I found by the 3rd child there was no time or reason anymore.

Aimothy · January 2014

The irony of CCH being a Martyr Mommy is not lost on me.

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