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vent *update*
First off let me say happy New Years!
Ok so all of our family (both set of parents) have been in town for over a week. Well night before last I was very overwhelmed because I hadn't slept since before I went into labor. My mom offered to stay over and watch the baby between feedings so I could rest. She did great. All baby's needs were met, she woke me every 2 hours to feed like dr said. It was awesome.
Well MIL found our my mom did that and I think she got jealous. She asked DH if she could do the Same last night. Out of me trying to be fair I said fine. Well last night she let my baby go 4 hours without waking me up to feed her. She wore so much perfume that my baby now needs a bath. After requesting that the baby be allowed to sleep in the crib I found MIL lay on with the baby on her chest 2x. I had to wake myself up for feedings and this last time baby had a dirty diaper and was lying wide awake (not fussy just awake) when I went to get her. MIL was asleep. I had to change her and MIL woke up and was like "do you need help?" Because baby girl was screaming. I just said "no I got it" I mean seriously why did she even offer... Her clothes had to be changed in the middle of the night because she threw up on herself which she never does. I think she is allergic to MIL perfume too because it makes me feel sick and cough/have bad congestion. Tell me why she needs perfume on pjs? I am just so mad. I feel like the little sleep I got came from my sweet baby being not taken care of as well as she should have been.
The inlaws are leaving town today and I guess I should be happy for whatever help I get but I feel like I would have been better off just dealing with her ourselves... Plus now my baby stinks to high heavens like nasty perfume and is all congested. Plus she didn't nurse as much as I wanted last night since we are trying to keep her from being jaundice and her dr said eat every 2 hours!
If this made any sense thank you for reading. I'm in a tired induced state and probably made no sense
Rant over....
Update: so this afternoon MIL came over to the house and when my Dh went for a walk she made FIL and SIL leave and she cornered me and attacked me about why do I hate her and I make her feel like I don't want her around. I got hysterical and she kept badgering me. She swears that I hate her and that she just "loves me so much". I tried to use the I'm hormonal and can't help it. She didn't listen and said that since dh and I got married I act like I hate her. I do not act that way at all and have been more than nice to her and put up with a lot of BS for the sake of peace.. I'm so over it all. Dh was mad when he found out because he was already upset with her today. I just can't believe she thought it was appropriate to jump a woman who gave birth 5 days ago.. Ugh.
Ok so all of our family (both set of parents) have been in town for over a week. Well night before last I was very overwhelmed because I hadn't slept since before I went into labor. My mom offered to stay over and watch the baby between feedings so I could rest. She did great. All baby's needs were met, she woke me every 2 hours to feed like dr said. It was awesome.
Well MIL found our my mom did that and I think she got jealous. She asked DH if she could do the Same last night. Out of me trying to be fair I said fine. Well last night she let my baby go 4 hours without waking me up to feed her. She wore so much perfume that my baby now needs a bath. After requesting that the baby be allowed to sleep in the crib I found MIL lay on with the baby on her chest 2x. I had to wake myself up for feedings and this last time baby had a dirty diaper and was lying wide awake (not fussy just awake) when I went to get her. MIL was asleep. I had to change her and MIL woke up and was like "do you need help?" Because baby girl was screaming. I just said "no I got it" I mean seriously why did she even offer... Her clothes had to be changed in the middle of the night because she threw up on herself which she never does. I think she is allergic to MIL perfume too because it makes me feel sick and cough/have bad congestion. Tell me why she needs perfume on pjs? I am just so mad. I feel like the little sleep I got came from my sweet baby being not taken care of as well as she should have been.
The inlaws are leaving town today and I guess I should be happy for whatever help I get but I feel like I would have been better off just dealing with her ourselves... Plus now my baby stinks to high heavens like nasty perfume and is all congested. Plus she didn't nurse as much as I wanted last night since we are trying to keep her from being jaundice and her dr said eat every 2 hours!
If this made any sense thank you for reading. I'm in a tired induced state and probably made no sense
Rant over....
Update: so this afternoon MIL came over to the house and when my Dh went for a walk she made FIL and SIL leave and she cornered me and attacked me about why do I hate her and I make her feel like I don't want her around. I got hysterical and she kept badgering me. She swears that I hate her and that she just "loves me so much". I tried to use the I'm hormonal and can't help it. She didn't listen and said that since dh and I got married I act like I hate her. I do not act that way at all and have been more than nice to her and put up with a lot of BS for the sake of peace.. I'm so over it all. Dh was mad when he found out because he was already upset with her today. I just can't believe she thought it was appropriate to jump a woman who gave birth 5 days ago.. Ugh.
Re: vent *update*
To put your mind at ease, B had high jaundice numbers. Almost to the point that he had to go to the nicu, but just under. The second night at the hospital, I took B to the nursery to sleep so that I could sleep better. They woke me every four hours and said that was fine, even though he was a small baby, who had lost 8% of his BW. It is really frustrating that your MIL didnt listen to your instructions, though.
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I told dh that when MIL is here during the day I don't want her holding the baby with all that perfume on. She bathes herself in it. It makes me sick. I gave her a fair chance and that is as far as my fairness can go. I'm over trying to appease others. My baby is more important.
"Do the best you can, until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
-Maya Angelou
And don't play the "fair" game, you'll find you always lose. I'm sorry you found that out the hard way.
ETA Wtf?? I just read your update. Definitely let your H handle this one. That is NOT okay. I just want to slap her for you...
Being displeased with someone does not equal hate. You have every right to be upset with her over her lack of help when she offered and not following your instructions.
So wrong that she cornered you. I'm sorry.
It sounds like your DH really needs to have a talk with her. Particularly about the perfume.
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RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
"Do the best you can, until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
-Maya Angelou
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EDD 2/5/14