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my husbands sense of humor
I know he's not intentially being an ass, but he thinks its funny to discuss my changing body. Yesterday at lunch with the family he mentioned how fat i'm getting. and then last week we were laying in bed and he called me 'thick'.
I don't know what I can do to get it through his thick skull that this isn't funny at all. I don't have body issues, but i've always been very aware of my body and making sure that I eat healthy and exercise regularly and so the weight gain and changing body isn't super easy for me.
I know my body is changing and i'm okay with it and like that i'm finally getting a belly. I'm not okay with being called funny names such as fat and thick. again he isn't an asshole he just doesn't get that it isn't a joke.
what would you do to make it clear? I need something thats really going to get the point across.
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Fast forward to my pregnancy. He made the mistake once joking around. I reminded him that I did not find it funny. That we tried hard for this pregnancy and my body is doing what it needed to do to grow a baby.
I think flat out telling him that you realize your body is changing but that you don't findthe fat ccomments funny and actually kind of hurtful.
I also explained to DH that I was extra self conscious and aware of my body so his comments would be taken differently than before the pregnancy.
He just needed to hear from me how the comments made me feel. That it wasn't his fault I was feeling that way but that his words could be hurtful.
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And I'll be honest, I didn't realize how much it hurt to be called that until I started talking to DH about it and I completely broke down and cried a lot.
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Guys just don't get it. My H says stuff like that sometimes too without the intent of upsetting me, even though it still does. Like you I've always been aware of my body and being fit/eating healthy. I find that telling him that it bothers me when he says stuff like that works best. To me, thick=fat regardless of what I means to him. I would just tell him point blank you don't like it. I'm sure he'll be understanding about it.
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