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Moms, how often do you get mommy time?
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DH and I have decided that we should each get some 'me' time. I was thinking maybe once a month just as a guideline to budget and plan. I told DH this month I would like to go for a pedicure, and he said he would like to go to a hockey game with his best friend. We also take one day a month to go on a date together as a couple.
I was just wondering how often you do something by yourself and how many dates you go on together? Weekly, monthly, never?
Re: Moms, how often do you get mommy time?
We don't go on nearly enough dates.
We also get time alone frequently but not planned because my mom loves to watch LO. We plan a date every few months or so.
Our Little Raspberry-Born 3/27/12
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We go out to dinner once a week but with DD. I don't really have a babysitter, my mom watches her when she can but my mom works a lot so I don't push it.
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Ours isn't really planned, but now that DS is a bit older and I'm not nursing it is much easier to get away. I've been on three trips without DS and DH, and I've been on one with DH and left DS with my IL in the last 8 months. I'm also going away to Mexico with DH for our anniversary in a few weeks. So I get plenty of alone time and couple time. I do try to schedule my alone time (not including trips) during the hours when DS is asleep so I am not cutting into our precious hours together on a weekly basis.
DH gets much less 'alone' time than I do, but I am much more proactice about coordinating time away, and he is happy getting an hour or two to himself in the evenings.
I don't think its about the number of times a week/month you get alone time, but more about the quality of time you get and if you feel balanced as a result. If you feel unbalanced, it is worth working in more time so you can be a happier mommy and wife.
TTC#1 July 2010 PCOS dx April 2011 DS born: February 21, 2012
TTC#2 June 2013 MMC Sept 2013 (partial molar), CP 02/2014 DS2 born: December 5, 2014
I think that is really my time. While pumping at work or napping while DS naps on the weekend. We haven't done a date yet. He is only this little for a small time.
Dh has had time. He does a guy night every two weeks. I ebf so it is work to pump and make bottles if we are apart. I work ft so I want to be with him when I can. In a year from now (even 7 months from now). I will be able to go shopping or have lunch with friends... It will go by quickly.
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Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
I really cherish grocery shopping with him. He's a good baby, and he has gone to four happy hours with me. I bring him when I meet up with friends for brunch or lunch. He's a little ham and soaks up the attention. None of my friends have kids, so they are happy to hold him.
If I need to, I can stop at the store on the way from work to DC. More often than not, I'll pick him up first, though. I spend 9 hours a day away from him. If I am not at work, Id rather be spending time with him or my H anyway.
H takes him if I want to sleep in or take a nap. If I am desperate for a nap or some alone time, and H isn't available, I go to my parents' house and they take care of him while I go take a nap. This isn't frequent, though.
Occasionally, I think that I want some alone time. But when the time comes, I realize that it just means pumping another bottle, missing out on another nursing session and taking time away from the little bit of time I do have with my kid.
B Born 6.27.13