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oh boy. wedding wear

My H and I are going to a wedding at the end of the month. he's in the wedding and the suit he's wearing is white and the tie is light blue.

the bride just sent me a text asking me to wear a white and sparkly dress to the wedding so I match him, even though i'm not in the wedding.

what the hell. its the middle of winter and you want me to find a white and sparkly dress that looks decent over my pregnant belly?

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  • Since when can you dictate what guest wear to your wedding? I was not given that memo when I was a bride. 
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  • Since when can you dictate what guest wear to your wedding? I was not given that memo when I was a bride. 

    yeah. I just told her I would try my best and asked if just sparkly would work. NYE dresses must be on clearance somewhere, right?
  • amccul20 said:
    Since when can you dictate what guest wear to your wedding? I was not given that memo when I was a bride. 

    yeah. I just told her I would try my best and asked if just sparkly would work. NYE dresses must be on clearance somewhere, right?
    Why in the world would any bride tell ANY guest to wear WHITE!? I thought that was the biggest wedding guest no-no of all?!

    I had the crappiest luck finding sparkly, affordable dresses before Christmas. I hope you have better luck finding something that will work. I think it's total BS she's trying to dictate your wardrobe when you're not in the wedding party.
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  • Wear black.

    Okay, maybe not.  But I would just tell her that you'll try your best.

    Although something blueish and sparkly might look cute against his white tux, and pull out the blue in his tie.

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  • maybe the bride isn't wearing white? That would be the biggest reason on why she is asking you to wear white - even though I do think it's tacky to ask. Maybe if she had mentioned an option or just one item - like the sparkly part - I don't think it would be too bad. Just try your best.

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  • I like this one (it has light blue):  http://www.motherhood.com/Product.asp?Product_Id=99365940022&MasterCategory_Id=MC3

    This one (maybe you could do a blue ribbon): http://www.motherhood.com/Product.asp?Product_Id=95711100022&MasterCategory_Id=MC3

    But yeah, good luck finding a white dress in January.

     

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  • @alexisanna44 Those dresses are cute, I especially like the second one. 

    @amccul20 You are PR and adorable and would look beautiful in anything! Tell the Bride to STFU and wear something that will make you comfortable! 
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  • That's crazy. I'd be really annoyed. I guess if you don't want to tell her no and point out how ridiculous it is to dictate her guests' attire, you can tell her you'll try and ask if there are any colors you should stay away from (in case she isn't wearing white). Good luck.
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  • My guess is that she wants you to be in some pictures? Doesn't explain why she is being so particular. Good luck! Hope you find something cute and affordable!
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  • A) I love you

    B) That dress is gorgeous!!
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  • @islandmonkey 8 I was just looking at that dress yesterday and was about to buy it for a wedding also!  I immediately thought of it when I rad the OP. You beat me to the punch :-)

    Who the F does this bride think she is? #1, you do NOT get to tell guests what to wear to your wedding beyond a dress code. #2, you certainly don't get to do it a few weeks before your wedding!  No. Just no.  

    You were nicer than most people would be by telling her you'd try your best.  What was her reaction to that?
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  • This is a ridiculous request!

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  • @islandmonkey 8 I was just looking at that dress yesterday and was about to buy it for a wedding also!  I immediately thought of it when I rad the OP. You beat me to the punch :-)

    Who the F does this bride think she is? #1, you do NOT get to tell guests what to wear to your wedding beyond a dress code. #2, you certainly don't get to do it a few weeks before your wedding!  No. Just no.  

    You were nicer than most people would be by telling her you'd try your best.  What was her reaction to that?

    thank you girls for agreeing that this is crazy! and I do like that asos dress and the one from MM. 

    and @pandpmeant2b exactly! and with being pregnant and so close to hopefully popping I have no idea what i'll look like and how big i'll be in several weeks!

    I got no reply to my text back to her.

  • amccul20 said:

    thank you girls for agreeing that this is crazy! and I do like that asos dress and the one from MM. 

    and @pandpmeant2b exactly! and with being pregnant and so close to hopefully popping I have no idea what i'll look like and how big i'll be in several weeks!

    I got no reply to my text back to her.

    I know exactly what you mean!  Luckily, I already seemed to have popped (I think I look WAY further along than 14 weeks!) , so the maternity dress I bought doesn't look completely ridiculous.  You'll have to let us know if/how she responds! I hope it's with an apology for being so incredibly tacky.
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  • Wow - that's a ridiculous request! 

    Also, I really like the asos one. 
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  • Those are both cute dresses @amccul20!  
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  • I love the second one!  I looked at both of those for my friend's wedding, but I'm pretty sure her dress is off white and she's probably one of those weird brides who does NOT want her guests in white.  I got one similar to the first one with long sleeves in red.  
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  • Those dresses are great, A! I hope one of them works for you.

    (I'm going to need to bookmark/remember Asos when I'm ready to look for a dress to wear to a friend's wedding in July. They've got some great stuff!)
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  • @luckyangel07 asos has really decent prices too. I've started really looking for mat clothes and they're expensive so keep it in mind for cute basics too!
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