RE Etiquette?

zamboni00 · January 2014

So, I walk into the office for my Pre-op appointment, and there is a couple checking in, so I sit in a chair to wait my turn.

I quickly realized that I recognized the voice of the H. He isn't a friend of mine, but a close friend of my close friends H (if you can follow that). We played on the same kickball team, sat at the same table at our friends wedding, have attended numerous gatherings together, etc. I know this guy- his wife, too, but not as well.

They at directly across from me in the waiting area, and thus began one of the most awkward 5 minute periods of my life.

They were called in, and no one ever said anything. Should I have? Or was I right to go along with the eye contact avoidance?

So awkward!

sandollar1010 · January 2014

Oh man! This is one of my fears! I have no idea what the right thing to do is, but I probably would've done the same thing you did.

carcrashheart · January 2014

i probably would have awkwardly and quietly smiled and said hi and then looked away. but only if they made eye contact. that's terribly awkward for everyone.

islandmonkey8 · January 2014

I probably would've done the same as you. If I was closer with them, I might have said something. But I'm more the type to let the other person make the first move.

nightmare_of_beauty · January 2014

I would have done the same thing. Unless eye contact is made, I hate the awkward "hi...how are you?"

nfp147 · January 2014

I ran into a friend of a friend at the RE office once. We both said hi and made small-talk, but there was no talk of where we were or why.

amandaf6383 · January 2014

I would have said hi only if they made eye contact or seemed to notice me. Awkward.

seahorse01 · January 2014

I ran in to a coworker (that I didn't know well) and a friend at the RE. I just avoided eye contact. I don't know why.

We went to a seminar for another RE and ran in to a friend of DH's from high school. We all talked after about what we were going through and had tried, and it was really nice to meet them and talk. So if it happens again if I ever go back to the RE I will talk to them.

zamboni00 · January 2014

Did I mention the couple we are both friends with just announced they are expecting #2?

So, once I was called back, I actually passed them in the hallway a couple of times, and then I saw them again as i was leaving. He was on the Hall phone outside of the blood lab, just as H was after our first appt, before heading in to do the blood tests.

This time, we made eye contact, waved, and said Hi. If he weren't on the phone, I would have stopped to chat briefly. I feel less awkward now!

LooneyLife · January 2014

I ran into a coworker before. She was actually one of the users I supported. We were friendly, but not on a personal level. I was there alone for my mock transfer; she was there with her husband for a monitoring appointment.

I was fine with a polite nod or smile but she initiated a full on conversation in front of everyone else waiting. Questions like what was I there for that day, what have we done so far, what's our insurance cover, why not do more IUIs, etc. Awkward.

Every time she called for tech support after that it turned into a quiz about how treatment was going. On one hand it was nice to have another person to talk to, but she also really had no boundaries. Plus, even though she was undergoing treatment, she was pretty clueless about everything IF related.

She ended up getting pregnant with IUI. I quit that job and didn't tell her before leaving. I hope to never run into her at the RE again.

DangerMuffin23 · January 2014

If there's no eye contact, then I wouldn't have initiated anything. It's a private thing and it's possible he didn't recognize you. Hopefully. Either way, they didn't initiate so I think you're good.

RockABye · January 2014

I'm glad it's less awkward now

I don't think you're wrong for not saying anything initially. I probably would have said something, but that's just because I don't think I've ever met a stranger. I'd have probably said "I'm sorry.. but you're XYZ's friend, right?" or "You look super familiar...". I'll talk to anyone though... Yes, I'm that annoying person. BUT I have a good sense of when people don't want to talk and then I don't.

zamboni00 · January 2014

@RockABye, I am the same way. I would have said something earlier, if I hadn't felt like they were totally trying to avoid eye contact. I didn't want them to feel uncomfortable, but also thought it might be their first appt, and with the news from our mutual friend, they might have appreciated some support, you know?

So I feel better that they hopefully knowing now that I am open to chat if they should want to. Not sure if they have someone in a their life who has been there, and is open about it or not

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