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Did I Do Something Wrong? (PR related, not me)
Ok first and foremost, I have 1 SIL and 1 BIL. I have 4 Step-SIL and 5 Step-BIL. I will be speaking about two of my Step-SILs. I will call them K and C just to make things easier.
K told me on Christmas that she was pregnant. I could tell before she told me, I noticed a roundness to her stomach and she was wearing maternity pants. She told me because of my m/c and didn't want to upset me or have me find out some where else. She was afraid of telling Step-FIL (they live with him, have their entire relationship and this is their second child) so she was waiting, her first doctors appointment wasn't until this week.
As stated in my FFFC, she is telling everyone that she is pregnant now. C texted me saying she wanted to tell me something, she wasn't sure if she should or if I knew, but knew that I would tell her. Before she texted back I told her I knew K was pregnant. C was surprised that I knew and questioned me about when I find out. I told her that I could tell at Christmas, but lied and said I couldn't remember when she told me. C is upset with me now for not telling her.
Was I wrong for not telling her? Part of me wanted to, but I knew if I told even one of my Step-ILs it would get to all of them. Step-ILs aren't exactly excited for K (it's long story and I can see both sides of it) and I knew they wouldn't be, but it was still K's news to tell and K is happy. Should I have soften the blow knowing they wouldn't be happy? Just want opinions, obviously can't undo the past.
ETA: Just side note, only Step-IL at Christmas was Step-FIL and he left before they got there so none of them saw her that night. I'm not sure they've seen her much lately.
DX: 6/2012 PCOS TTC: 6/2013 BFP: 9/6/2013 Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
Re: Did I Do Something Wrong? (PR related, not me)
~TTC Buddies with akcrrr and amandaf6383~
Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP! Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64 Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
My question would be, why did you tell C that you knew instead letting her finish telling you. If you already knew, there was no harm in letting her finish spilling K's news. Less drama that way.
dx: Unexplained IF (mild MFI)
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
Cycle 8,9,10 - 50mg Clomid - BFN
The Rowdy Roberts
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
dx: Unexplained IF (mild MFI)
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermTTC 19 months ~Started RE in March 2014~
DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
~Started acupuncture in May 2014~
~~BFP 7/6/14~~~EDD 3/14/15~~It's a girl!!~~
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussBFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss