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It's no secret in our family and close circles that we are 3T. My mom is having a really hard time with our failed cycle. She called me on Wed to check up on me, and she was pretty upset. I thought she was going to cry. She did tell me, "This one really hit me. I really thought it would work. I would have bet my paycheck on it." In all honesty, I had a feeling it would fail and let all the GP girls and our friends and family hold out hope. So now I feel terrible that I've "moved on" and my mom is struggling. What can I say/do to comfort her? 3T affects everyone - my parents are feeling the void of the grandchild that could have been. I don't know what to say other than, "I know. We were upset, too. We have high hopes for the next cycle. Thank you for caring so much." Any advice?
TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update) 3T<3
Re: Failed cycles and family
What you're thinking sounds good, but it's still a difficult conversation to have. Are you open with her about the next steps and moving forward? If this doesn't work, are you planning to grow your family in a different way? If so, then I would discuss that with her. Let her know that you're sad about it not working too, but you're hopeful in what the next steps will bring and what your long term plan is with 3T. Her seeing your positivity and excitement will help her through it and move forward too.
FWIW My mom is like this. She wants to discuss our treatment and loss, but she starts crying every time it's brought up. I find that I've moved on from it and am willing to discuss it, to where she hasn't yet and is still sad and hurting for us.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermCycle 8,9,10 - 50mg Clomid - BFN
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermWait a hot sec...We must have the same SIL! She uses her kids as a tool against my ILs. It is disgusting.