why do people want to drive my kid around???

Jefsnickerdodle · January 2014

Does anyone else face this? Or do you offer to pick up/drop off kids for play dates???

There are 2 people always asking/suggesting that they pick up or drop off Adam

. Do they assume that he is in a no back easy to move around booster and I can just give it to them? or do they not take restraining their own children seriously? Or am I the only one that doesn't want to constantly move a carseat?

He is 39 pounds dressed. He has a highback convertible booster and currently wears a 5 pt harness. He can until 50 lbs in this seat and I plan on keeping him in it. I just don't understand how people say "i'll pick him up/bring him home" like they can just stick him in a car. ..

lala5507 · January 2014

I was just thinking about this the other day at preschool drop off. It seems I am the only one who still has my 4.5 year old in a 5 pt. harness. And people have offered to pick up/drop off. She's only 34 lbs, she's going to be in that harness for as long as possible. Its good to know I'm not the only one. I think a lot of people can't wait to get to those little boosters because of the easy use.

egpitt22 · January 2014

We still have Jake in a 5 point harness as well, with no intentions of converting it to the booster aspect any time soon. I do frequently offer to other moms to bring their kids to parties with us or have picked up other kids at daycare when parents are in a bind or something, I keep a booster in the back of my van for that reason.

Luckystar2 · January 2014

How old is he?

Dd was in a 5 point harness in a convert to booster seat until recently but if somebody else needed to drive her we either just had them use it as 5 point (certainly when she was younger) or had them just use as a regular booster to make it easier. But that was once she was over 40lbs 4years. It is such a rarity that somebody else drives her. Usually more so family and they take our car. It's really only her best friends mom who has driven her a couple times.

I have to say that I don't know anybody who stuck with a 5 point harness as long as we did (a little over 5 year- and at least 45lbs) I absolutely think almost everyone rushed to booster as soon as they reach the minimum so I'm sure most people wouldn't really think it was a big deal. don't they need to be 40lbs and 4 years? Maybe they just assume he weighs enough? And I think everyone does assume that everyone else switched as soon as they are at the minimum.

AmandaJLewis · January 2014

We have EJ in a high-back booster with a belt now, and have a little booster for times she may be going someplace in a different car. I don't find we use it often. But it is nice to have. But she has FINALLY crested over that 40lb mark for the minimal requirement on the little booster, and is 6.

kris356 · January 2014

Maybe they think they are doing you a favor since you have a young baby and it is winter?

If you are uncomfortable with it, just thank them and decline.

MrsAmers · January 2014

What Kris said - I think it is people trying to help you out since you have a little one. We've only done a little ride sharing and usually it is to help someone out or vice-versa.

Heather is still in a 5-point, but I'm thinking of converting her to the high back booster. I read recently that for a kid mature enough to sit up properly in their seat, the high backed booster is as safe as the 5-point.

Both our kids are petite so switching them at 4 wasn't an option. Todd is 4 1/2 and I think he's 36 lbs.

MaryM · January 2014

I offer rides too, but just to be helpful.. Not to offend anyone. I use an extra booster that I have.

denalea · January 2014

I was also going to go with the "Just trying to make life easier on you" thought. If it makes you uncomfortable, politely decline, or make some excuse. "I have to run to the store anyway, so I'll be glad to drop Adam off at your house." Or, offer to be the designated drive.

Jefsnickerdodle · January 2014

I do decline and avoid by just saying we are doing a b or c anyway, which is usually true. It's not people we are close to/family. These are rather new school friends.

I do get that they might be trying to be helpful. I just find it hard to believe no one uses big boosters/harness.

I hate to let him ride in a backless seat at all because I feel like then he'd 'want to do it all the time. I'd rather not make the exception.( shouldn't be the safest seat with other people. I know how I drive!! )

I don't have room with our 2 seats to offer rides.

Jefsnickerdodle · January 2014

Luckystar2 said:

How old is he? . don't they need to be 40lbs and 4 years? Maybe they just assume he weighs enough? And I think everyone does assume that everyone else switched as soon as they are at the minimum.

he is 5 1/2.I think it is 40 AND 4. he just isn't at 40.

I know he is light compared to a lot of kids. They probably do assume that like them we switched, but we didn't...I hate to say " no he can't ride with you because he's in a high back 5pt." Sorta as an embarrassment factor if his friends aren't...but I'm not switching just for that reason either...

why do people want to drive my kid around???

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