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  • My stupid body.  I went from no response to over responding and now this cycle is cancelled.  We literally just wasted ~$1200 for nothing.  I feel absolutely defeated right now.
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  • This might be gross but:  WTF is this a second head growing out of my neck or the world's largest zit?!  It needs to F off.

  • sorry to hear that, Yasmin :(  I'm still praying for you

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  • @ystaalenburgI'm so sorry you're going through all of this!

  • @ystaalenburg I'm so sorry! Keeping you in my prayers.

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  • @ystaalenburg I'm so sorry! Likewise sending thoughts & prayers. 
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  • @ystaalenburg - BIG HUGS, I'm so sorry!
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    There you go!!  That's a little bright side :)  I have a good feeling about this for you!
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  • @ystaalenburg, I'm so sorry. That is great your dr is going to give you samples to help with the cost. Fx for you next cycle!!

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  • Ok, this might get long. If you make it to the end, you deserve an award.

    I haven't brought this issue up here yet because it is really emotional for me. Probably exacerbated by my hormones...

    When we were traveling over the holidays, we were at my parents house in MI. On Christmas day, my sister and her kids (ages 8 and 6) came to their house. We brought the dog with us. My niece and nephew have a dog at their house and know how to respect animals. So, after dinner and after all the presents were opened, my nephew sat down to pet our dog. This was the first real exposure to kids Scout has had since we adopted her. We do have neighbors with young kids, but she only ever sees these kids when we are out on a walk and she is leashed. So, my nephew was sitting next to her on the couch calmly petting her, and she barked and snapped at my nephew. She didn't bite hard or break the skin, but it was enough to freak out H and I and startle my nephew. Later on in the afternoon, as I was sitting by her and my nephew walked in the room, she tensed up and barked at him. We were concerned that there might be a back story/pattern of abuse with young boys in her past.

    After a lot of talk with my family members, H and I decided to contact the rescue we adopted her from and talk about re-homing her. We felt like we couldn't risk her harming other young children and especially our new baby. So, we contact the president of the rescue and brought up the idea of re-homing her. The president was immediately defensive to us about the incident and was acting like it was our fault that this happened. She made me feel even worse about the decision to give her up. Through the course of several emails we agreed to meet with a trainer to see if they thought it was an isolated incident and she was trainable or if we needed to surrender her back to the rescue. We had the trainer out last week and it was decided from the trainer through an initial test, that she is not suited for a home with small children. I sent that information back to the rescue president and got another aggressive email from her. It's like she is trying to make us feel guilty for giving her up. Like this decision isn't hard enough on us, her having this attitude is making it so much harder.

    So, WTF lady, get your crap together and lets work together to make sure Scout has a loving forever home.

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  • :( I'm so sorry @WilllyH19.  That sounds rough.  I am a huge animal lover/rescue advocate but you are making the right call--you can't risk it.  Hugs to you!
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  • @WillyH19 I know exactly what you are going through.  I adopted my husky, Nala, about two years before I met H and she was my baby.  When H and I moved in together, it was very apparent that Nala was aggressive towards small children.  We gave it time, hired a trainer, and nothing helped.  She would always snap at my stepdaughters and eventually, we had to make the decision to re-home her.  Luckily, my parents decided to take her in so I still get to see her all the time.

    You are making the right decision, as hard as it is.  Dogs are incredibly strong and can do some serious damage, especially to a small child.  I hope you guys can figure out a good solution for your pup.
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  • @WilllyH19 - I'm so sorry she's an a$$hat!  Go with your instinct, and at least know it was backed up by a trainer.
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  • @willyh19 Ok this just makes me super mad.  She's acting like that dog is more important than your child.  You are doing the right thing by rehoming the dog.  The person at the rescue is a complete moron!  I won't go off about it but I get really upset about how stupid people can be when it comes to dogs. 
  • @WillyH19 , I'm so sorry!! :( I know that has to be hard, but the most important thing is for you to provide a safe and loving home for your child. That really, really sucks that Scout isn't good for a home with small children. It's best to know it now than when the baby arrives, but it doesn't make it any easier I'm sure. 

    @Ystaalenburg, I hate that for you! :( But I have a good feeling about next time. I'm sending good vibes your way :) *hugs*
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  • @ystaalenburg I am sorry that your body over-responded to the treatment.  At least it worked!  I am continuing to pray for you.  A perk is your doctor is giving you the meds for free next cycle.  Hopefully after this cycle, the doctor will know the correct dosage and things will be better :)

    @WillyH19 I am so sorry that your dog won't be a good match for children.  With the reaction of the rescue director, I wonder if this has happened before with your dog.  I know they try to encourage you to work it out and keep the dog, but the fact that she's getting nasty makes things sound suspicious.  My dog was a pound return at leas twice.  He SILs grandmother got him and loved him until she passed away.  Then my parents inherited him because my brother and SIL lived in an apartment that was not dog friendly.  Hopefully, Scout will end up in a situation where he will go with an older couple without children who will love him and spoil him.

    WTF real estate in my area.  H and I discussed the house that we liked from Sunday and decided to move forward.  I asked my realtor if we could go see it this afternoon so I could take my dad.  She told me we could go see the house, but it already has an accepted offer on it.  I drive past the house on my way to/from work and there was a home inspector in the driveway.  The house has been on the market since last Monday!  What do we have to do, see a house the day it's listed and have my realtor put an offer in for us as we're standing there?  I want to think about it for a day or 2 since I'm spending a few hundred thousand dollars, all of the money I've saved since I started working and committing to pay for it for the next 30 years.  We're deflated and frustrated and we want a home to bring our baby to in August, not my parents' basement.
  • My WTF moment started Sunday and grew to a head Monday night. After DH and I went to look at the house, we had stopped at my parents' house to visit since we were about 10 to 15 minutes away. DH and I were basically gushing about all the good and bad things about the house. My dad had one comment on the whole thing--just think what you're doing to your cars. I respect and understood his input. And had hoped it would be the end of it. Nope. Monday night, I'm home from work and relaxing with DH after a long day. My dad calls and proceeds to ramble off facts and figures about how many miles we'd be putting on and the costs of tires and oil changes for not one but two cars (he had it figured out to the penny) and how it'd be miserating driving out six days a week (not once considering that DH and I carpool every chance right now even with us only living 5 minutes away) I think i would not be nearly as irked about it had he just told me this on sunday and dropped it. It got under my skin that he'd feel the need to call at a random hour of the night to tell me this. It just bothers me getting treated like I can't live my life and make decisions with my husband even though I have been moved out for over a year now. I respect where he's coming from but at the same time I feel like he can't grasp what I am explaining to him either.
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  • @consciousdear88 I know how you feel. My dad did the same thing to me for a looooong time. I finally had to sit him down and tell him to back off and let me live my life and make my own decisions/mistakes. I think it is really hard for parents to see their kids making independent decisions that they don't agree with. I know you and your H will make the right decision.

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  • WillyH19 said:
    @consciousdear88 I know how you feel. My dad did the same thing to me for a looooong time. I finally had to sit him down and tell him to back off and let me live my life and make my own decisions/mistakes. I think it is really hard for parents to see their kids making independent decisions that they don't agree with. I know you and your H will make the right decision.
    This!  My dad was kind of sticker shock on house prices.  They've tripled since he last bought.  But he's good about giving his option once and dropping it.  I hope yours drops it after the phone call.
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  • mana8503 said:
    WillyH19 said:
    @consciousdear88 I know how you feel. My dad did the same thing to me for a looooong time. I finally had to sit him down and tell him to back off and let me live my life and make my own decisions/mistakes. I think it is really hard for parents to see their kids making independent decisions that they don't agree with. I know you and your H will make the right decision.
    This!  My dad was kind of sticker shock on house prices.  They've tripled since he last bought.  But he's good about giving his option once and dropping it.  I hope yours drops it after the phone call.

    Yup, my dad watched one too many "Flip that house" shows and was convinced that I would be able to get an awesome house for less than $100,000.  He just got it in his head that all foreclosures would be super cheap, this was not the case...

    Also did anyone else have people come over to your new house and point out it's every flaw?  This drove me insane!  I remember saying, "I'm aware I paid for a 23 page inspection that told me everything wrong with this house.  Shut your cake hole."  I think the most frustrating part of buying a house is your family.  lol!

  • Rather than tag everybody, I'm sympathizing with all prior posts that replied to me. If it wasn't the apparent destruction on the cars, it was the fact that he felt we weren't trying hard enough to find something closer to work. We have. It either involves us sacrificing the yard that we want or being in debt forever. We're quite aware of the work involved and are willing to accept that challenge. I'm keeping my fingers crossed at this point that it's dropped. Haven't heard from either parent since that night.
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