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WildFlower2350
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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I'm miserable :(
When my husband and I dated we were long distance but made a herculean effort to balance the travel, take turns and foster our relationship...and it was fabulous. After getting engaged I moved to where he was (under the guise it was temporary b/c I didn't want to put down roots there being far from my family.) It was basically for him to finish grad school. I hate it. I hate where I live, I hate the town and I miss everything I left behind- friends, family, job, my city..ect. My family is far away and recently my father was hospitalized and in a rehab center for almost 2 months. It was devastating to me and I had to drive through the night on more than one occasion because I thought we were losing him. I have zero network where are. Its just me and hubby who works a lot.
I try so hard to embrace it but its been so difficult. I guess Im venting and not exactly seeking advice. I can't move tomorrow, I don't need a "therapist" I just have to deal. It sucks though. Ugh.
Re: I'm miserable :(
As someone who's picked up an moved a few times, I can only suggest that your view of your experience is what you make it. Are there things I hate about where I live? Sure. Everyone feels that way I'm sure. It's also normal to miss stuff. You have to make a concerted effort to move beyond that though. Memories can't rule your present. But, if you can't fake it till you make it, you and hubby need to have a serious talk.
Sorry about your dad.
I seriously thought you were my best friend for a second, that is almost exactly her situation, and I know it's really difficult just from talking to her.
Do you two have a timeline of how long you're living in this place? Just knowing that 2 years is the maximum you'll allow yourselves to be there can make a huge difference in coping.
Have you talked to HIM about this? Or does he think that you're happy living there? Because communication is huuuuge and since you two love each other, an open dialogue about how you feel trapped and isolated could go a long way.
I'm sorry you're so removed from your family, that must be really tough.
check out a website called meetups.com. It's not a singles site. What is is that you put in what kind of things you like to do, knitting, wine tasting, reading, outdoors, etc. And it lets you know if there are any groups in your area that fit any of the interests that you have. Maybe if you can find other people in your area that like to do some of the same things you do, between making new friends and doing what you enjoy, it will make your stay in the area more enjoyable.
Good luck!!!