Move for Work?

rayraex · January 2014

My husband has a job offer in Silicone Valley, CA. His family lives in our Phoenix and my family lives in Denver. Is it worth moving for a better career move if we won't have any family close by? We are planning on starting a family in about a year.

jtmh2012 · January 2014

It all depends on what is important to you.

We moved about 2 hours away for a job that paid way more than what I was making before and we were able to buy a much better house because of it.

chrisnjay05212010 · January 2014

another depends on whats important to you here! Do you want to be by family, especially if you are starting your own soon? Is more money important? Whats the quality of life, and atmosphere out in CA? I would consider all the pros and cons

GilliC · January 2014

You're living near his family? How important is that to him? How are you handling living away from your family?

Also, how important is deciding how you spend your vacation time? Once there are two families to visit, it can eat up a big chunk of your travel/vacation budget.

Depending on your priorities and personality, it can definitely be worth it. I moved overseas for my job, and I have never regretted it. It turns out that not only was it advantageous for our careers, we actually found a city that we liked more than anywhere else we've lived!

duckie1905 · January 2014

If you're like me, I'd take the job in a second if it meant better money/benefits or it meant a huge promotion or something equally great.

But, I'm not that attached to any location, I don't mind traveling to see family, and we don't have kids.

If being close to family is a priority you'll definitely need to think long and hard about making a move like that.

isacfritz · January 2014

That sounds similar to my past predicament. My husband (then boyfriend) and I were living in IN when I was offered a job in the Silicon Valley. We up and moved at the end of grad school and got engaged two months later! For us, it was honestly difficult to leave our friends and family in the Midwest and it still is at times. We have been out here for just under two years and try to see our families around the holidays, whether they come to CA or we go home. It does become hard when family members health starts to fail and you cannot be with them. That said, we **love** our life out here and don't plan on moving back in the near future.

I'll also warn you that the cost of living is ridiculous out here. So while the pay may be better, your living expenses will also increase. If you two are crazy savers (like we are) you can make it work and squirrel away a decent nest egg for future kids, but you'll have to cut back on a lot to make it work.

Take some time to consider all the different options. Can he advance his career nearby? A solid career is important, but your happiness is also important!

Sorry I just wrote a book - but I feel you!

rayraex · January 2014

@isacfritz Thank you, that was really helpful! He ended up getting an offer from a different company locally so we decided to stay, it was definitely a tough decision! Good luck with everything in California!

Thank you to everyone else who chimed in too!

chrisnjay05212010 · January 2014

im glad it worked out for the best!!! Good luck to him in his new job!

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