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Excuse my whine-iness...

Needed somewhere to vent so I hope you ladies don't mind.  We put in an offer on THE house today.  It was $11K below asking so we expected them to counter.  They came back and told us that they wanted to net $4K under asking...well, since we're asking for seller assist, that would mean we'd be paying above asking.  We countered at $5K above what we offered the first time, putting our second offer at $6K under asking which in our area is very competitive for an offer.  They came back at $4K OVER asking. 

My main issue with this is I go to my dad for advice a lot.  He built my parents house 19 years ago so I bring him along on second looks, etc.  I tried calling him when they first countered to ask his advice.  He was in a work meeting and I became impatient so H and I decided to go in with our counter where we were comfortable.  When my dad called back he said we are appearing overly anxious and they'll just come back quickly asking for more and more money.  I don't want to tell him that he was right.  It's frustrating. 

This house hunting/offering/negotiations is for the birds!

Re: Excuse my whine-iness...

  • Now that I read that, I sound a bit more whiney than I thought.

    Just want to clarify that I do appreciate everything my dad does.  I'm just very frustrated with this process right now. :(
  • Bummer :-( 

    DH and I had a hard time when we were house shopping. We had two houses under contract until we found the house we are in now. 

    It is really tough. I am sorry :-(
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  • House buying is so stressful. I'm sorry. :(

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  • Putting in offers is the most stressful thing about house hunting. You find the house that you both love/works for you/checks off the necessary boxes, and then you have to worry about getting it or not! 

    It doesn't sound like these sellers are really all that motivated yet. Sure, everyone hopes to turn a certain profit, but they set their list price at a certain amount that leads people to believe a lower offer will be perfectly fair. They should have listed their house higher if they were hoping for $XX profit. 

    It really comes down to what you guys are willing to offer or if you can just say, "Nope" and walk away from their refusal to return a realistic offer. Then again...we paid asking so we could get seller assist on our closing.
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  • I am right there with ya. DH and I put an offer on a house last month and didn't get it. So far, we have yet to find THE house (other than that one). House hunting sucks big time. I hate it too. Sellers can be real jerks too sometimes (although so can buyers). When I tell people we are house shopping they are all like "oooh how exciting!" I really don't get it.

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  • Dude, I gained 30 pounds while house hunting, waiting for appraisals and closing. (This took nine months). It could have been a freakin baby at that point. Sooooo stressful. I'm sorry.

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  • Ugh, I freaking hate buying houses and cars for exactly these reasons! Sorry the sellers are being such a pain! Hopefully, everything works out in your favor. 

    When we were buying a house over the summer that we loved, we ended up walking away because the sellers were problematic and bought a better house literally 5 houses down. As it turns out, those over zealous sellers ended up losing about $20,000 being greedy. We love the house we ended up getting in the end!


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