I'm looking for some advice. I got so frustrated with G this morning (and lat night) and I'm wondering if my expectations are realistic.
I've been doing T25 (25 minute workout). When I'm feeling ambitious I do it in the morning, sometimes I'm able to finish it before he gets up and sometimes he wakes up right in the middle of it. Other times I do it in the evening after dinner.
I cannot bring myself to do it at 9pm after he's gone to bed - which means most of the time he's in the room while we're (Casey and I) trying to do this.
We set him up with the iPad and a drink/snack but in less than 5 minutes he's running around causing some kind of shenanigans or just yelling, "Noooooooooooooooo!" for no apparent reason. This means Casey or I have to stop (which sucks b/c it's ONLY 25 minutes) to investigate what he's doing and/or what the problem is. He's not a huge TV kid. He loves Yo Gabba Gabba! and Cars Toons (the Mater shorts on Netflix) - but he's not a kid that will just sit and watch TV nor do I necessarily want him to be.. My nephew will sit glued to the iPad for hours if left to his own devices but G can't seem to sit for less than 1/2 hour.
We've tried setting him up with some of his favorite toys - but inevitably, he brings them over to where we're working out and drops them around the floor, or he quickly gets bored and starts throwing the pillows or blankets off the couch (causing more obstacles), etc.
Is it realistic for me to expect that he can happily entertain himself (with us in eye/ear shot) for 25 minutes? If so, do you have any strategies on how we can get him more interested in independent play?
Ryan & Casey Married July 17, 2004
Gabriel John Born February 23, 2012
Re: Realistic Expectations re: Toddler (almost 2) Entertaining Himself?
I would say it's probably not realistic. At least in my experience. For that age 10-15 minutes was about all I could get. Especially with my first born. She cannot play by herself. Even now at 4.5 years old it's a struggle. My youngest loves playing by herself, but even at age 2 could not go 25 minutes.
The only thing that could get them to sit for that long would be a favorite tv show.
You can keep trying, but it's probably unrealistic to expect him to entertain himself for 25 minutes.
And even now its hard to get her to play on her own.
Mason could sit and keep himself entertained at that age, but if I was trying to get something done, he'd be more interested in that. Garrett was able keep himself busy, but he needed to be supervised at all times if I wanted my house to remain standing.
At their ages now, while they are more than capable of occupying themselves for 25 minutes, the second one of us jumps on the treadmill, then they are all up in our business!
I would try to involve him in some way or just do the workouts separately.
He is however content to chill in his highchair with a snack and a show for 25 minutes. Does G still use a high chair? Can you stick him in there with a snack in front of the TV? Or strip him down to his diaper and let him go to town with some water paints, play-doh or something...else that is a special treat to play with.
First born - probably not. My 2nd, yes & 3rd as well but Caileigh - she still doesn't want to do things herself! My suggestion was get him to do it with you but you tried that! I would probably try to pen him in somehow? At least you may get more than 10 mins that way.
How's it going with T25 - I need to look into it again.
Also, I would be happy he doesn't bury himself in electronics!
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)