busy season with accountant spouse

Re: busy season with accountant spouse

• SmrBrd2012 member

  

  January 2014

  Yes! I was thinking about posting about this too. This is H's first year as an accountant and this Saturday is his first of many this season. He won't be working from home though so I won't be a distraction :P. Busy until 9pm on a Saturday seems awful though. Is it typically that bad for you guys? I think my H has to work 53 hours a week so it's not too bad I guess.
  

  

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• MJLAFRANCE member

  

  January 2014

  It's G's 6th year accounting it's gotten a little worse each year, right now he's 8-6 weeknights with 8-9 ish at home, plus 8 hours on 1 day of the weekend. He's been making an effort to listen to music I like or half watch a chick flick with me if the work is easier. He says it makes chick flicks easier to stand lol. Plus i'll force him into the occasional dance break. Still this year's been pretty bad. I keep saying to myself i'd be selfish to ask him to join a smaller firm with less hours, I just wish it wasn't so boring!

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• Smitten2012 member

  

  January 2014

  Hi Ladies

  I wanted to join into the convo - I am actually the one who has to endure busy season and meanwhile my H is working his 40 hrs 9-5 job! From a perspective of a workaholic - we get super stressed, super guilty that we cant spend time having fun adn super resentful when we end up working and you end up having fun ha! so its kinda a very sucky and awful time - plus is winter blues on top of that!

  My fave recommendation is to have a plan to do a mini trip right after the busy season - even if its a weekend at a bed & breakfast or a week away on the beach it makes such a difference to have something wonderful and fun and re-connecting to look forward for! My H & I always make an effort to go away the first free weekend after the craziness.

  Also it helps to get sweet messages / notes / texts just even saying "hey i know you're having a stressful day but im thinking of you" always makes my day

  And lastly - i know im writing this from a woman's perspective - but i love it when my H really makes an effort around the house since im always at work - i know you ladies are prob the primary house managers but i wanted to write it from my perspective as well.

  Good luck & let me know if there is any other questions / hints / advice i can help with.

   

  

  

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• SmrBrd2012 member

  

  January 2014

  Yeah, I must say I'm glad I'm at least NOT the one with the crazy hours...It will be a strange adjustment though. At this point we are just happy he found this job and he enjoys it, so hopefully he won't get too burnt out. He does want to plan a vacation post-tax season but we're also trying to save for a house downpayment so we'll see...

  
  

  This may be optimistic, but I'm kind of looking forward to having some time to myself on Saturdays. At the same time, it will kind of suck because we only have one car and he needs it for work...So I'm stranded unless I want to take public transportation every where...most of my friends don't live on a route so I won't really be able to see much of them during that time unless they come to me. But during the winter I don't really like doing much of anything because of the cold so hopefully we can save up for either a trip OR a house.

  
  

  

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• na41313 member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  Hello!

  
  

  H has been with two accounting firms so far. Busy seasons were always rough! The first firm he was with, he was in tax, so his busy season was the typical January-April. The second firm he joined, he was an auditor. I was not such a fan of this because he traveled constant from July through February. I would pretty much try to keep myself as busy as possible. Planning vacations was hard because something always seemed to come up. 

  
  

  Now, he's actually been out of the firm scene since September. He moved to a credit union in a senior management role. The busy times are a lot less busy, and he travels a lot less. 

  
  

  Good luck, ladies!

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• MJLAFRANCE member

  

  February 2014

  I like the idea of a mini trip! I think we'll have to try that it would be nice to have something there to look forward to. And I like your idea of messages through out the day I'm just worried it would bug him. Lately I've just been buying him lots of sweets since I know that would make me happy lol but I think he thinks i'm trying to fatten him up, and I will if I keep it up so a change of strategy is probably in order

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