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Girl on top...

kitchen0nfirekitchen0nfire member
Third Anniversary First Comment
in Sex & Romance
Ok, I need moves!

Hubby has always been on top. We've tried doggy style a few times with no luck, so we always go back to missionary. I've been on top maybe twice, but I've dreaded every second of it! I HATE IT!! And it really sucks because I like to IDEA of being on top. I just feel really insecure, like I'm not doing it right. I tell him to please tell me what he wants me to do, but if I do something odd he laughs. It's been a while since we've tried me on top, maybe a year. But the point is that the last couple of times we've had sex, he's asked me if I want to be on top, so I make up an excuse, any excuse, to get me out of the situation. 

Now, just to be clear, I'm very comfortable with my body and being naked with/around him (we shower together everyday). I just feel odd on top, don't really know how to explain it well. Also, it's not very pleasurable for me since he's on the smaller side...

Our two year anniversary is coming up and I'd like to surprised him. Any suggestions?

*NOTE: Please no relationship advise. Just about the deed. Thanks!*
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  • DaBearsBrideDaBearsBride member
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    Lean back so you are either sitting straight up and down or leaning towards his feet a bit. Sometimes I will lean back and grab DHs ankles. It was an awkward position at first because I was like "what do I do with my hands?" (How I Met Your Mother, anyone?) But just improv. Play with your breasts, hold his hands above his head, ruffle your hair. Idk, if you are really insecure try some positions alone in front of a mirror. Mentally you might think it looks weird but once you see yourself you will realize its not weird at all. Im sure your DH would be floored just for you making the effort!
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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly member
    Third Anniversary 25 Love Its 10 Comments Name Dropper
    If rhythm is your issue, reverse cow girl will help that and if you are insecure it will help that you aren't staring at each other.

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  • JennycoladaJennycolada member
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    Not a fan of girl on top. But I really like the spooning position!
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  • TarponMonoxideTarponMonoxide member
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    DaBearsBride said:
    Lean back so you are either sitting straight up and down or leaning towards his feet a bit. Sometimes I will lean back and grab DHs ankles. It was an awkward position at first because I was like "what do I do with my hands?" (How I Met Your Mother, anyone?) But just improv. Play with your breasts, hold his hands above his head, ruffle your hair. Idk, if you are really insecure try some positions alone in front of a mirror. Mentally you might think it looks weird but once you see yourself you will realize its not weird at all. Im sure your DH would be floored just for you making the effort!
    Improvise --- do something in deed -- grab his anlkes, his balls, fondle his boobs, keep a scarf nearby and tie up his hands (if you're daring) -- anything is great.

    You might also try the reverse cowgirl.
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  • kitchen0nfirekitchen0nfire member
    Third Anniversary First Comment
    TarponMonoxide said:
    DaBearsBride said:
    Lean back so you are either sitting straight up and down or leaning towards his feet a bit. Sometimes I will lean back and grab DHs ankles. It was an awkward position at first because I was like "what do I do with my hands?" (How I Met Your Mother, anyone?) But just improv. Play with your breasts, hold his hands above his head, ruffle your hair. Idk, if you are really insecure try some positions alone in front of a mirror. Mentally you might think it looks weird but once you see yourself you will realize its not weird at all. Im sure your DH would be floored just for you making the effort!
    Improvise --- do something in deed -- grab his anlkes, his balls, fondle his boobs, keep a scarf nearby and tie up his hands (if you're daring) -- anything is great.

    You might also try the reverse cowgirl.
    LOL fondle his boobs?! I'm sorry, I don't see myself doing that... And the only thing worse than me on top is me on top knowing that he's facing my butt! Reverse cowgirl is a definite no lol

    Is there maybe another position I could try where I would be taking charge? (Think beginner, guys. This is me trying to step into uncharted territories... )
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  • kitchen0nfirekitchen0nfire member
    Third Anniversary First Comment
    Wait a minute guys! I KNOW WHAT'S WRONG!! It clicked when you mentioned reverse cowgirl...

    I don't like being on top because there's no eye contact! Since he's only 2 or 3 inches taller than me, when I'm on top, he's facing my neck, so he's uncomfortable either reaching for my mouth or my breasts. 
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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly member
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    Jennycolada said:

    Not a fan of girl on top. But I really like the spooning position!

    We call this the lazy dog :P I like it too.

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  • cutiepie0104cutiepie0104 member
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    I have a very tall Hubby and I am about a foot an a half shorter then him. When I am on top I sometimes lean close to him and push off of my ankles VS using my legs. Sometimes I just move my pelvis, Leaning back and grabbing his ankles works too. Because he is so tall sometimes he will stand at the end of the bed while I am still on the bed and do the deed that way. Don't be nervous just let your inhibitions go. 
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  • lifeguardlifeguard member
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    On top is the best. It's also the only way I can orgasm via penetration for what ever reason ??? It's DH's duty to make it good for you.
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  • schuette2schuette2 member
    Eighth Anniversary 500 Comments 5 Love Its
    We do a sort of girl on top where he sits (usually on the couch), I climb on, then lean back so my hands are on the floor. He gets the view he craves, and I can use my arms to work instead of my legs all the time - it also helps me stay on top longer, as my knees are crap and don't let me stay in that position long.
    Try not to think of what you think you look like up there, and realize that he thinks the view is phenomenal. If you didn't do something for him, he wouldn't have invited you into bed. 
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  • Mrs.Rad888Mrs.Rad888 member
    Seventh Anniversary 2500 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    Try the Lotus Blossom position. Technically you are on top, but you are both sitting up facing each other, so you get the eye contact you want. Also, since he's sitting up, holding you, you don't feel quite so exposed. When you do it this way, you do more rocking than up-and-down motion, so his size isn't that big an issue (TWSS).
    Try Googling "Kama Sutra", there are literally hundreds of positions.
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  • lifeguardlifeguard member
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    schuette2 said:
    realize that he thinks the view is phenomenal.
       I've wondered about that too. DH is still just as keen as ever to see those parts as he was 20+ yrs ago. Don't know why men are so visual and never seem to tire of the sights?
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  • schuette2schuette2 member
    Eighth Anniversary 500 Comments 5 Love Its
    My theory is as long as he likes what he sees and is still coming home to me, I must be doing something right.
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