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buhherfly
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Husband's friendship with ex(girlfriend and co-worker)
My husband and his friend (a guy he works with stays at our house often..) went the other night to take a girl he once dated, and then worked with for almost the whole first year we were married (We're almost to the 2 year mark..) back to her fathers after her boyfriend, that she chose to live with, was being hateful to her. First off, they left at 2:45, and then got back at 5:45. Why did it take them 3 hours to go on a 5 minute ride to town to get her, and then a 20 minute(maxed out) ride to take her home? Okay, the parent wanted to thank you? Another 10-15 minutes.
Second, the girl is now CALLING him the next morning. Wanting to hang out. I found messages ON MY PHONE, where he uses Facebook off of my phone, to her calling her baby, and saying that he cant talk on the phone right now.. and things such as this. While she is telling him she has always loved him and crap.
Third, he goes,with his friend who stayed here, to get lunch that afternoon, and we live literally 5-10 minutes from town. He didn't come back for 2 hours. and when I asked where all he went, the reply was "around".
Fourth, last night we got a call on our phone from some number i had never seen before, he answers it and walks away from me, in front of our friends walks outside and doesn't say anything to me. When he came back, I asked who it was and he says the girls name. That she wanted to talk for a minute, and her dad wanted to thank him. He was out there for an HOUR.
How am I supposed to take this? What am I supposed to do now? Do I confront him about it, and cause myself even more pain? Or do I tell her to back off?
Re: Husband's friendship with ex(girlfriend and co-worker)
The news is not good: It is very likely your H never got over her.
Take a stand on this; consider showing him out the door.
And PS: Stop running a USO, Boys and Girls Club, teen center and flop house for these "friends" of his. Why should you be the entertainment committee for every single one of these "friends" your H has???
And even if you do talk to her?
Won't help.
She's not gonna run for the hills and cut out any type of contact with him.
What is worrisome here: if not "Mary" then he will do the same thing with somebody else. He's already thinking of physically cheating and wow, who knows if she hasn't been physical with him already?