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WWMMD-gifted stocks

When I was a baby, my grandfather gifted me about $2000 in a utility stock with my mom as a custodian. Now, at the age of 29, they are finally getting around to putting the stocks in my name only (we're close/I trust them, so the delay isn't an issue). They are worth around $5000-a conservative investment as-is.

Now the question is what I should do with them? The main options:

A) do nothing, pretend they don't exist and let them grow as an asset

B) My instinct-sell them when we're ready to buy a home to increase our DP, putting aside the capital gains tax amount

C) H's vote, do nothing, but knowing that they're there dip into our e-fund for closing costs when we buy (I will likely veto this but am throwing it out there to be fair)

D) Sell it, pay capital gains, use the rest to fully fund my 2013 Roth IRA.

I think D and A are the most practical, but there are non-MM reasons we need to save our DP as soon as we can. I really want to avoid doing an FHA loan, so the more we can get together quickly the better.

A wrinkle-my mom and I are very close and talk about almost everything. She is a strong proponent of A because this gift is the only thing her father gave to me before he passed away. We don't talk financial details now that I'm married, but if she finds out that other than A has happened, she'll be crushed (even by D).

I'm not considering using it for debt-I'm in the ok taking ten years for my SLs minority around here.

Alright ladies and gents, let me have it!

Re: WWMMD-gifted stocks

  • I would save it for your down payment. I know it may make your mom happier for you to leave them alone, but your grandfather left this for you to use at a time in your life when it would help out, and that would absolutely help out. I don't think I would leave the money there forever because as an investment it sucks. So B if it's only going to be a couple years before you buy a house, otherwise D.

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  • I could see it being used as part of your DP, like he gifted you an opportunity to put more money down on your house. 

    Another option would be to wait until you were ready to put the DP on your home, take out everything BUT the $2000 and use the $2000 to gain more interest, etc. This way, you are using the gift in a way that you both would be happy.

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  • Thank you both. I'm glad to hear that using it for my DP seems reasonable. Assuming I get $3,000 after taxes, then that's 1.5% more equity in the homes we like than I had yesterday!
  • I feel like if you use this towards a DP, your mom should be thrilled that her dad could help you and your DH buy a home- it's not like you're blowing it on frivolous things. It seems a little selfish on her part to ask you guys to hold onto this forever- I doubt that was your grandfather's intention.
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  • cbee817 said:

    I feel like if you use this towards a DP, your mom should be thrilled that her dad could help you and your DH buy a home- it's not like you're blowing it on frivolous things. It seems a little selfish on her part to ask you guys to hold onto this forever- I doubt that was your grandfather's intention.

    I feel the same; that it's a purpose he'd approve of. Hopefully it won't come up with my mom; I don't think it's appropriate to discuss finances beyond generalities now that I'm married, and she does respect that.
  • I got something similar from a grandparent at age 21. There was about $4,500 in it and I started adding $100/mo. I used it as my "untouchable" savings towards a house. I bought a house at age 23 and that certainly came in handy.
  • You should get significantly more than $3,000 if you sold the whole thing.  Taxes are only 15% on capital gains.

    I would probably use it as part of your downpayment also and consider your first house to be a gift from you grandfather.
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